Step Families Support Group

How long has she been living with you all? Is her husband there too? Did you set down house rules before she came into the picture? Does she pay rent??
It seems to me like you all need to sit down an have a serious talk. You need to set up boundries and make sure you follow through.

Wow, tough situation. I would put my foot down on the babysitting. Maybe babysit while she works if you stay at home, but only so she can contribute towards the bills. But after she is off, she needs to raise her child. Its not your job, even if she lived with her biomom and biodad, its not right to take advantage of the situation.

Unless you are talking about a verifiable mental illness here I suspect you've underestimated their ability to take care of themselves.

And I'm talking mental illness not some learning disability or air headedness here.

Although its tough love I've found that if you kick them out you will be surprised at how well they will survive. Note I didn't say how well they'll do. Just survive. But hey its their choice. You've done your job and its time for you to take the last step. Boot them from the nest.

Get the woman signed up for welfare, pay about 3 months worth of rent somewhere not so nice and walk away.

Kids will take advantage of parents until they're made to do otherwise.

You're being suckered.

Charge rent and save it for them.(don't tell them this is what is happening.) When you have enough for her to get a place there will be no excuses for her to stay.

I agree with drawing the line on babysitting.

Your HUSBAND needs to sit down with his daughter and tell her how much you both love her, and how much you believe in her. Its time to go on her own and make a her own life with her new family. When you have children of your own, you need your own place to do as you please. Tell her that you will give her 1-2 months to move out. After that you are there for emergencys only, since you have so much responsibilty and are busy raising your other children. Make it positive- If you see no progress getting close to the final date...........I would sit down again..and tell her " You need to leave, so we can keep our relationship good"
I know I would have a hard time.....but I would of layed down a time limit before they came to live.......its easy to be taken advantage of.........be strong..It will do her and her husband good..........