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I was out of town last week on bussiness my boys ages 13,11,5 called me crying I asked them what was wrong they told me that my ex's boyfriend had whipped them with a belt for not mowing the yard when they got in from school I talked to them got them calmed down told them I would talk to the boyfriend plus their mom when I got off the phone I got online and booked me the earliest flight back into my hometown,went to my kids school asked to talk to them and they showed me the marks,I left the school called my ex and asked her if she knew about this she said that all he told her was that he had whipped them but didnt tell her what he used when I told her what the boys told me she said let me call him and ask him,she called me back to tell me the boys was right,I waited till he got home from work and I confronted him and my ex about it he said my dad whipped me with a belt so I feel that kids these days need the same I told him not to whip my kids with a belt he said make me my ex looked at him and said are you stupid,I am alittle crazy when it comes to my boys needless to say I chased him all over the neighborhood whipping him with a belt,I believe in punishing my kids but not with a belt.My kids had rode the school bus to a friend of mine house so they didnt see what was going to happen
Posted on 04/18/08, 02:04 am |
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I don't feel that you were necessarily in the wrong, but probably should have sought a more legal route. Department of Children Services and or police and lawyer probably should have been contacted. The boyfriend of your ex is not, I assume a legal guardian of the boys and therefore has no right to discipline them in any manner. You could have been able to press charges against him, and may still be able to do so.
On the flip side though, I hope you kicked that asshole up one side of the street and back down the other. 
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If I was your ex I'd have been the one chasing him all over the neighbourhood with the belt. Good for you, sticking up for your kids!
If this should happen again you need to take photos of their injuries and call child services. I applaud you for being the father that you are.
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Thanks guys for the support,I dont think he will be punishing them anymore,He probably learned his lesson,I did also get in touch with my atty on what he had done and what I had done to him she said to me are you crazy I said with a smile yeah when my kids I am,she said I got your back if anything becomes of this
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Glad your atty's supportive!
It's refreshing to read about Dad's who actually care about their kids. I wish my ex was one of you guys. He refuses to see my son and told his family that my son wasn't his so that they wouldn't have contact either. I guess that just the way the cookie crumbles though.
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upside, kudos to you. downside, this idiot could go and press charges against you and/or a restraining order against you.
also, I'd far from leave my kids in this person's care i.e. sounds like he's living with your ex. when comes to kids, sure get mad as hell, but do the right thing i.e. legal manner to show your kids there's a right and wrong way to go about something. not to say i'd do the same, but an eye for an eye isn't always the way to go. I'd probably have my kids taken from them in that instance.
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What restraint. I would have beaten the shit out of him. People like him should be locked up. What he did was assault. Why did you not call the police and get him arrested. NO ONE hits my kids. not even me.
You did no wrong, I would have done worse.
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this man is a complete idiot how dare he whip ur kids with a belt things like that dont happen these days its abuse!!! i wud never whip my child with a belt u wasnt int he wrong i wud of gone mental if this was my children and reported him for it... there are ways of correcting children now without hitting them!! reading this post about what he has done makes me sick this man shud rot in jail
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Way to go dude, if it was me I would be in jail and he would be dead.
But there is something you can do, talk with the lawyer and have it added that she can not have other men there when the boys are. Or you can just have him removed from the home. There are laws that can help. Check them out in your state!
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