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Day 253 (Taken from the divorce care daily email found at www.divorcecare.org) The way you deal with visitation and interact with your former spouse will affect your children. Take care that you communicate with your spouse in a way that is friendly and without blame for the sake of the children. If you are struggling with visitation issues, here are some suggestions to better handle these difficulties: "There are no good answers for visitation," says Dr. Bob Barnes. "It's not God's plan. It's not ideal. The best-case scenario is for you to decide that regardless of your ex, you are going to try to cooperate and compromise. "Your ex may always want you to drop the children off and pick them up and never participates in the transportation. It's not fair, but you are not dealing with the nurturing of your ex anymore. You are dealing with the nurturing of your children. You don't want your children to arrive under strain all the time because you and your ex are furious with each other. The children lose here. "You have to decide that you are going to go the extra mile. Maybe you've gone the extra mile for eight years now, and you are tired of it. Do it for the Lord's sake and for the children." If you are angry or frustrated with your former spouse and you show it, then you are teaching your children to be angry and frustrated when things are unfair or things don't go their way. "The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him" (Proverbs 20:7). Heavenly Father, help me to stop focusing on what's fair and what's not. Every time I make a snide remark or grumble about my former spouse's behavior, I am injuring my children. When my children look at my words and responses, they should see a reflection of You. Amen. Posted on 04/15/08, 07:04 am |
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I'm going through this issue as we speak.
My issue is this my X tries to lure into arguements and such at the time of the pick up/drop off so I started makeing all of our communication to be either in writing or go through lawyers. I had no choice to do this to protect myself and my visitation rights. I know it affects my child but I don't want to loose my child to my X's lyies and manuplation of facts. So what can you do in that situation? all responses are welcome. 
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