Shyness Support Group

I was in your shoes once.....and at least you are recognizing that you want to change for the better....I didn't do that then and I wished I would have.

Anyway, embrace your shyness and who you are. And perhaps is it more of a thing that you are introverted. It is ok. But I think (and this is just true in my case) our anxiety results of something deeper within....our lack of confidence or our self-esteem stems from thinking we are "different" and that how we are isn't right. A lot of that can be based on what we were told growing up. So many think shyness is a disease.

And in the instance with you mom...sometimes those of us who are more introverted tend to internalize our problems more and it makes us uncomfortable to have to talk about it openly with others. It is ok.....that is not bad.

You are a beautiful person, created uniquely. We all are. Embrace your beauty, uniqueness and good things will result. You have close friends...keep nuturing those friendships.

Congrats on your singing endeavors! You are young...you have your whole life ahead of you.......that is awesome! Keep dreaming and realizing those dreams.

(now I am off topic!!!!! Hope I have helped a little!)

I couldn't have said it better than flowerchild. I was a lot like you in high school (even in varsity choir :), but outside my circle of friends I clammed up. Only advice I would add is...use your age to your advantage and, if you really want to be more outgoing, don't wait until your thirties to make changes (like I did!). There's lots of good advice on pickthebrain.com if you search under shyness. Good luck! And enjoy the singing - I sure miss it!

Stephie, I also was - and still am - a lot like you. But, you know? That trip is going to change your life. I was thrown into a group situation (a summer camp) and it changed me a good deal. I am still shy, but it made me more comfortable with me. You end up getting close with everyone you are with and since MOST people are accepting and great, you realize that you don't have to hold back. I am excited for you! :)

Also, you wouldn't think it, but most people have a least a little anxiety about meeting new people. When you imagine that the people that you are talking to are feeling the same exact way, it really helps. Because they probably are.

Good luck!

I know how you feel. Im the same way. I get really shy around people I dont know that well, but around my friends Im totally okay. I am moving soon, so Im really nervous. If you need support, let me know.

That's how I am too! I'm an outgoing shy type of girl. :] I tend to stutter sometimes without realizing it (only happens a little bit) and I get so nervous as to what the other person is thinking that it takes me longer to explain something..then I look really stupid. It's horrible. :( I hate it. And the problem with me is, I don't WANT to try because I'm happy with the friends I do have. I'd rather be in the back because I like my personal space. I like A LOT of personal time to myself.