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i'm pretty much a loner too it's ok

i'm pretty much a loner too, i actually like it most of the time, but sometimes I feel lonely even when I'm around alot of people.

with you there on crowds...I start conversations but others cut in and then I'm lonely again, can't get word in edgewise and sucks.

I never considered myself a loner but I was "independent". I grew up in the suburbs and always had my small group of good friends and my family. I didn't date a lot but I had the occasional girlfriend through my teens and twenties. My independence never really seemed like a problem until my early to mid thirties. My small group of friends became smaller and smaller as they moved away or married off until I they were gone.

Recently I've been attempting to reach out and make new connections with people. It's tough but it will be worth it.

I was raised a loner, but in a different way. My dad worked, and my mom took care of my sick grandparents who lived with us. Alzheimer's and such. So people weren't really allowed over because of those reasons, and my only friend lived right across the street. I was kind of awkward as I kept growing up and always had problems keeping friends.

Now that it's all over, I don't really mind. I like going out when I'm in the mood for it, which is not very often. I'm not fond of large crowds and don't like being forced to meet new people.

Like you, a lot of my showing I care comes out in a joking manner. I'm sure you are sympathetic and compassionate, it just shows different, and the trick is learning how to tweak that so it shows. And that's th good thing about having close friends, they understand your quirks.

So, no, you're not the only loner by situation out there.

I'm an only child so I spent a lot of time around myself. I didn't have much of a use for other people. So in that way, I remain a loner.

i wouldnt call myself a loner, but i do understand what serenity said about being in crowds and still feeling lonely. sometimes i feel even more lonely in a crowd than i do when i am actually alone.

eamor...totally understand there! I feel the same, very uncomfortable, nervous, so on. Get a drink in me and I'm fine w/ who cares attitude!

i'm 43 and i'm a loner. sometimes it's ok and sometimes it's not. i wish i was married and had a wife.

I'm the same way. But I have been more out there growing up..i usually only joke..and i don't know how to be sympathetic..