Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc.
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I am angry, SHY PEOPLE UNITE!!!
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I am so angry at people complaining about us like being shy is wrong. I have been called quiet, antisocial, withdrawn, socially retarded, etc...
What right do people who have to the gift of gab to tell me being me is wrong? I have been told that shy people have low self esteem and feel anxiety. That may be true, could it be that we have been told, since we could understand dialogue, that being shy is wrong? My son is like me. Shy. since kindergarten they told me he is too quiet. Why don't he talk. Why doesn't he adjust socially. He's thirteen now. Do you think it's because he's not talking because he has always heard people tell him that being him is wrong. when he does interact they make jokes like "Wow, he said something" which will make you stop talking again, etc...They complain when kids talk too much and when they don't. he is fine at home. it's when there are a lot of people around it's harder for him. shyness is a personality trait, genetic, that's what I think. I have a big family and all were shy. My low self esteem when i was younger came from teachers saying something was wrong with me, and kids well, not being nice. I wonder, if I was allowed to grow at my own pace and not be pressured to be extremely social all my life and made to feel bad when I wasn't, would depression and anxiety around people be such a huge issue? The fear of being judge and labeled? Being around people and being social drains my energy and after a while I take a break. I enjoy being by myself. I have a good time, reading, being alone after a long day at work and my weekends doing things that involve less people. That isn't wrong. Therapists, psychiatrists alike need to stop saying it is. I don't need to get out more. I need for people to lay off. I am saying this because the same cycle is happening with my child and they are causing doubt about himself. Unite, tell others to leave us alone. Posted on 05/06/08, 09:05 am |
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I think many times throughout our lives, especially while we are young, we get the impression that being shy is wrong....so we try to conform and change who we are......usually doesn't work. So....we all just need to embrace our shyness....true friends and family will shine in our lives and love us for who we truly are! 
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Thank you, cyn70! My sentiments exactly. I've felt the way you described for forever. Peoples' perception of shyness causes us to feel as if there's something wrong with us. It caused me to be even more scared to talk to people.
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The thing is, How do I stop this? It can't start with my generation. I am thinking about future shyers.
It has to start one voice at a time. I don't think therapists and psychologists would be happy about that one, lol.
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There is a distinct line between shyness and introvertedness as LittleMissRosie said in reply#6.
Being introverted, wanting to keep to ourselves and be reserved, is just a way of thinking and feeling. It's not wrong at all. Shyness however is something we should want to overcome, because my definition of the trait is when you want to voice your opinions but don't due to a fear of being negatively judged. I completely agree with the original post though. People shoudn't throw us in the spotlight and make us feel bad about being slightly different, because it only heightens anxiety and depression. Health and happiness, that's what matter most. I need to take baby steps to somehow overcome this shyness rather than rely on alcohol in social situations, and also accept my 'rareness' or uniqueness as a part of me that shouldn't and most likely will never change. Learn to get comfortable in your own skin, hmm... not an easy task.
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You are so right!!!
I hate it when people think they could take advantage of you just because you don't talk as much as the others. Then they call you weird and multiple other names. Don't you?
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thanks for this posting! if i wasn't shy, i think i would lose many of the things i like about myself in addition to the shyness. i want to work on being more comfortable and making more friends, but that's my decision to make, not anyone else's.
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It's not their business, but people will sure make it their own. I've heard it all...
Why don't you talk? I'll say what I want, it's not like she will say anything back. She don't like talking to us. Just go over there and say hi,( like it's that easy) blah, blah, blah... I was watching Americas Top Model the season before last, and they had this girl who was very shy, kept to herself and the other girls were so mean. One of the girls said " Don't talk to her, I know her type, if you do she would become clingy to you and never go away" Not her exact words but pretty close. All I could do was sigh and shake my head.
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I'm angry, also, and must share this...I have neighbors right on top of me on either side, and it infuriates me to have to wave and smile every time I walk outside of my door. One day it was so loud outside I finally let it out to my husband and he simply said :this isn't a gated community and you are anti-social! I feel as if it is normal to desire an element of privacy! I can't help how I am, either, and it most certainly looks like people think a person with a level of dignity unlike theirs is odd!
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I agree with u all, UNITY is the key.
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