Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc.
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I am angry, SHY PEOPLE UNITE!!!
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I am so angry at people complaining about us like being shy is wrong. I have been called quiet, antisocial, withdrawn, socially retarded, etc...
What right do people who have to the gift of gab to tell me being me is wrong? I have been told that shy people have low self esteem and feel anxiety. That may be true, could it be that we have been told, since we could understand dialogue, that being shy is wrong? My son is like me. Shy. since kindergarten they told me he is too quiet. Why don't he talk. Why doesn't he adjust socially. He's thirteen now. Do you think it's because he's not talking because he has always heard people tell him that being him is wrong. when he does interact they make jokes like "Wow, he said something" which will make you stop talking again, etc...They complain when kids talk too much and when they don't. he is fine at home. it's when there are a lot of people around it's harder for him. shyness is a personality trait, genetic, that's what I think. I have a big family and all were shy. My low self esteem when i was younger came from teachers saying something was wrong with me, and kids well, not being nice. I wonder, if I was allowed to grow at my own pace and not be pressured to be extremely social all my life and made to feel bad when I wasn't, would depression and anxiety around people be such a huge issue? The fear of being judge and labeled? Being around people and being social drains my energy and after a while I take a break. I enjoy being by myself. I have a good time, reading, being alone after a long day at work and my weekends doing things that involve less people. That isn't wrong. Therapists, psychiatrists alike need to stop saying it is. I don't need to get out more. I need for people to lay off. I am saying this because the same cycle is happening with my child and they are causing doubt about himself. Unite, tell others to leave us alone. Posted on 05/06/08, 09:05 am |
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Hear, hear! 
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Hi just thought I'd say Hello, people do think it's wrong to be shy don't they, I know and they tease me about it too, but what they don't think about is why that person is shy, it's not our fault, and people don't seem to try and help they look down their noses at you like you have a decease or something, please feel free to share you problems with me anytime, my name is Martin X
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You are so right! I, too, get really angry when people say I'm too quiet or shy. What am I supposed to do about it???? It really does contribute to low self-esteem.
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this is so right
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Yeah that always made me angry when people would bring that up. I remember one teacher of mine brought up that topic about me being shy in front of the whole class and went on and on about how she wanted me to speak louder and more. I really hated her for that. It's like going up to someone who is talkative and outgoing and saying 'why are you so chatty?' Anytime someone questions a person's character is really almost degrading. And I agree with you, shyness is mostly genetic...my dad's side is extremely shy and so am I and I'm sure if I had a kid they would be introverted too.
Tell your son that the most misunderstood people are often the ones deemed as geniuses :) It's true! Also, he is young and the teen years are very difficult for shy kids. I started sort-of coming out my shell just a couple years ago (I'm still a work in progress though). He might find his voice later in life too.
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I tend to make a distinction between being introverted (not wanting to socialise) and being shy (wanting to socialise more, but being afraid)
I'm introverted - I enjoy being social sometimes, but it is draining, and I need time by myself to 'recover' lol. I really enjoy being by myself, reading etc. I don't have lots of really close friends, but I don't mind that. This is the way I am, and I don't want to change it, and I'm not sure I could. On the other hand, I am also shy. When I need to make a phone call, I get so frightened I want to vomit. Sometimes I'd like to go up to someone I don't know at a party and have a quick chat to them, but I'm too frightened and I can't do it. These are things I don't like, and that I do want to change.
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You left a couple things out there.. I have been told that I am rude and stuck up because I am so shy.
It is time to unite, and let the world know that being shy isnt wrong, it is who we are.
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Hi, I have a son who is 14. He has his friends at school but stays home after school, I'm worried about the summer holidays, what will he do. Me, I am shy and he has taken after me, I have never had many friends, and the ones I do I only see once in the blue moon. They say I'm not shy, but I am. I just don't know what to say to people, and don't feel comfortable speaking out. People sometimes don't want to hear the word 'shy'. Today I am having a bad day, I feel lonely and left out. I have a friend but she is hanging out with other people and says I can come, but I don't feel comfortable because I am not sociable. Anyways, I hope u don't mind me writing my little thing.
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You are so right. My mother inlaw tells people that I am backward, what the Hell.
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Yeah. If you are happy, then there is nothing wrong! It's not hurting anyone. For me, I get upset about being shy at times because I don't like being alone, so it can stop me from being happy. But if it doesn't bother you, it is fine! And people should keep their moths shut once in a while. People that talk non-stop aggravate me soooo much!
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