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Ok, a bit of a shyness/anxiety topic. I'm finding it increasingly hard to accept that 'friends' on DS are actually friends at all. I know why this is..its because I have a fear of making/having friends. Why would anyone want to have me as a friend? Like a right plum I got myself in a big tizz on Tuesday and started spazzing out and sent a message to a 'friend' about a DS 'friend' on how this particular DS friend had always been around for me since I started on this site. It was like I had to prove that it was ok to have a friend. In the next breath I was saying that this DS friend isnt a friend at all...just someone who is on the site in the same boat as me. I know this all sounds crazy. I felt like crap as soon as I had sent the messages like I was trying to get approval that its ok to have friends and then saying that its not ok to have friends because DS friends are not friends at all. I'm really confused at the mo....
Posted on 02/22/08, 08:02 am
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Reply #1 - 02/22/08  11:36am
" I bet some of my friends think that i don't care becuz i don't write them so often. i have carpal tunnel in both arms and typing lots doesn't help me to have stress-free days. some people will be true friends and some will just be chums, but don't hold less value in the chums, as all people deserve to be treated equally. ;) "
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Reply #2 - 02/22/08  4:17pm
" cheers kev..you're absolutely right. Because of my low self esteem I just think I have upset a friend who I do regard to be a close friend on here over some silly messages I wrote. I would hate to think I have upset them but they have gone a bit quiet on me and I think they may have upset them. Its like I have pushed them away on purpose for fear of getting too close. "
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Reply #3 - 02/22/08  4:23pm
" i hope i am regarded as a friend, i always get excited when i see ur signed in, love having a laugh with you, and im sure if we met up, we'd be real friends too....although,i wouldnt know what u looked like, coz id be looking for a lightbulb! lol x "
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Reply #4 - 02/22/08  4:56pm
" I love ya claire. Of course, we are friends arent we. (big smile) I'm a bit of a loon when it comes to accepting people as a friend cos in reality I am really no good at socialising at all. So, I really do have one DS friend..maybe two. I feel quite popular now! :-) xoxoxox "
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Reply #5 - 02/22/08  5:43pm
" hell yeah we are mates!!!! you dont have to be great at socialising to me called a great friend, a friend is someones thats there for u ,to listen to you,give advice,make you smile when ur down,and sit next to you at the cop shop when you both mess up!! hehehehehehe xxxx "
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Reply #6 - 02/23/08  4:07pm
" I believe lots of ppl on here are looking for friendship. But sometimes the connection is not there. And thats ok, b/c we are all different. Look for friends that you can connect with and they should stick with ya.

I hope this helps ya "
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Reply #7 - 02/24/08  6:57am
" That does help darling..thank you for your reply. I guess I just find it hard to find people to 'click' with. Or more to the point I wont allow myself to! :-) "
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Reply #8 - 02/25/08  10:12pm
" It nice to have a friend but true friends are hard to find. When you find a friend I have to socialize with them to keep them and I am not very good with socialzing. "
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Reply #9 - 02/25/08  10:32pm
" You know I found a good friend by chance...from the moment we met we clicked and we haven't even met in person.

You see I was bored one night and so I decided to find games on the internet and I came acros a site called gamesville.com and by the time the night was done I had maded not only a friend, but my very first BFF...seriously friendship happen in the wierdest ways. "
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Reply #10 - 02/26/08  12:29pm
" that is soooo cool darling. Will you ever get to meet in person? Not that its a problem if you dont. Its nice even if you can have a close friend online. :-) x "
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