What is Shyness
Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc.
Shyness is most likely to occur...
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I have been shy all my life, and it took me until I was 28 to decide to get help for it.
First I saw a phsycologist and was then put on medication, which has helped so much. While im not 'out there' and 'real loud', I feel normal, and feel as though I fit in a little more. After years of put downs about being shy, I have a really bad self esteem. I constantly feel bad about the way I look, worry about my weight all the time (i'm 57kg), and just generally dont feel good about myself. I don't have many friends, and still find it hard to meet people. I have a fantastic supportive husband, who I always think that he thinks im fat and ugly and not good enough. I worry that he will leave me for someone else, which really is not his character at all. He always tells me how much he loves me, but i've just got it in me head that he is just saying that. I've also got two wonderful boys who are my life. Anyway the question is how do I get some self esteem and start feeling good about myself and stop worrying about what people think of me and stop obsessing about my weight? Posted on 02/07/08, 04:02 am |
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Hi, I understand what you mean because
I have fought with the same feelings. I have read some books on self esteem which have given me some insight into the tendency to feel down about ourselves. Basically they say that everyone is the world has the same worth because we are all human. There are no traits that make some people better than others. It is our own thinking processes which are hurting us not what other people say or do. In order to feel good about ourselves we need to stop putting our own selves down in our minds. If we want to change something about ourselves we should do so but by goal-setting and working towards reaching those goals not putting ourselves down in our minds. p.s one of my favourite books is "The feeling good handbook" by David D. Burns ,M.D It has many suggestions for learning to feel good about ourselves. I hope these suggestions help. 
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Terribly hard. I got two degrees still no self esteem became a lawyer and was succssful for 20 years no self esteem. On and on. Its a quandry
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Terribly hard. I got two degrees still no self esteem became a lawyer and was succssful for 20 years no self esteem. On and on. Its a quandry
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