Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc.
Shyness is most likely to occur...
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I have this problem and I was wondering if it was odd. I still live in the same town that I was born in and so I know a lot of people. I have 3 kids and they are very active in many things. I have met a lot of people/parents through boy scouts, sports, band competitions, dance class, PTA, school functions, church activities, ETC.... I am extremly shy but I force myself to attend all the activites my kids are involved in cause I love them and I want to support them.
My problem is that I end up with friends from the kids activities who are too talkative and vocal. They call to vent with every little problem cause they know I will listen. It becomes exhausting. They claim I never have problems or stress. The fact is that I do have stress and problems but I don't dwell on it or talk about them non-stop.They do all the talking! I couldn't get a word in if I tried. I have slowly pulled away and I try not to make new friends anymore. I attract the same type of people. I think part of it is jealousy on my part. I wish I could be more talkative and outgoing and socially normal. Posted on 01/03/08, 11:01 am |
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i have a similar situation, but not quite...the people i get involved with are usually talkative (which is good, because i'm not) and have a lot of problems that they tell me about...then when the problems resolve, they disappear. i wish i could be more normal too...someone once told me that God lets the same pattern repeat itself until you stop making the same mistakes. i wish i knew how to do that! 
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yeah I am similiar, I always attrack people with problems or crazy people...crazy people mostly because I don't get up and walk away, but also because I know no one else will listen to them. but then after helping them they usually disappear also...which most time I'm happy lol. we should make it a goal to find a shy person and talk to them first and see what happens. lets break the chain
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sometimes people are shy for a reason...like they're afraid of people because of things that happened in their past. i met one of my friends that way...i started talking to her because she always sat alone. and then we got to know each other, and she told me a lot of horriffic things that happened to her. it's hard for me because she's hurting so much and there really isn't much i can do to help her feel better.
i attract crazy people too...i think people can pick up on my crazy vibes or something. but..in both situations, i'm doing what's easiest for me...i let the *crazy* (no i don't think they're actually crazy, i just can't find a better word right now) person talk, or i pick an easy target. i think my problem is that i begin relationships around problems, not around positive things that we have in common. outgoing people seem to be more positive...i guess i have to try harder to be more outgoing...like attract people with positive energy, instead of identifying with someone else's sadness...
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I come from a loud family, so I'm pretty much the only quiet, shy one. My best friend is the exact opposite of me -- loud, boisterous and outgoing. All of my friends are like this, except for one. Jason is just as quiet and shy as I am, and it figures I'm attracted to him!
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This is a funny thread somehow.. I don't attract crazy people, I seek them sometimes cause I identify with them.
But on the listening thing: it's a fact that most people would rather talk/be heard, than listen...it's like you can enter this thread, not read what others had to say and post your opinion cause you think it's more important.
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I tend to attract people with tons of problems too. They want to call me and vent about the same situation over and over and over. Yet they never do anything to remedy the situation. Then when I try to call just to vent about a bad day or something, they don't have the time for me. It gets very frustrating.
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I am pretty sure I do so that is why I am working to beat the shyness.
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