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I think that about 1/4 to 1/2 of my identity might be in the shyness Support Group.
Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc.
Shyness is most likely to occur...

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What is the best way to deal with shyness?
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I always been very very shy. Maybe since I was a baby because my mother says that I never cried or smile, I was so quiet just looking around. I always have trouble having conversations with people, even females and some guys and bfs have rejected me because of that.
But sometimes I think that maybe if I learn to accept myself the way I am and don't care what people think or if they reject me I'd be much happier. What do you think is best... love yourself the way you are or try to improve yourself and fight against your shyness? Posted on 12/10/07, 12:12 am |
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Love yourself! People should except you for who you are. No changing! ^^
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before you can try to improve yourself and fight shyness, you have to love yourself first.self-acceptance is a very important aspect of dealing with shyness. its something i'm going through as well.
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I think you have to accept the way you are and learn to love yourself. I have realized for me, it must be genetic. My grandma and mom are very shy. Now I have a shy daughter. I hated being shy as a kid and I still struggle sometimes. I relate to you saying that as a child, you never smiled or cried. I was the exact same way. But I have decided that I would rather be shy than be someone who is loud, speaks without thinking first and has to be the center of attention. That is not me. I also think that we can accept and love ourselves and still make small positive changes when we are ready. No one is perfect and everyone can improve in some way. Being shy is not a bad thing, there are way worse problems to have.
Good luck to you.
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If you pretend to be someone your not, it will eventually catch up to you and you will be fake not only to yourself but to others as well. Be yourself. And someone is going to come along one day and know that you are the dearest and sweetest person alive and you will feel so comfortable with him that you'll forget all about being shy.
Love yourself. God made you just the way you are & just the way he wants you. Caring people, friends ,boyfreinds, whoever, will know you are shy and give you time to get to know them and feel comfortable....those are the best kind of friends anyway! Be yourself! Let those self centered selfish people fall to the wayside. :) Hugs
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I was very shy as a kid. I would embarrass my parents. People would wonder why I didn't smile and was so quiet as well. So I understand that part. I think you should love yourself.I have trouble doing that at times. I think if you want to change yourself that is fine but do it for yourself.
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i've always been shy and often felt weak/inferior/wierd because of it. i've felt my best when i've done lots of social exposure type work and trained myself not to care so much what other people think of me. i think comfort and acceptance of myself makes me more comfortable sharing some of myself with others. i try not to care if it seems like i'm the only one not talking to someone in a crowd. thanks for your great topic. ds has been so helpful for me!
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thats the best advise is to accept who you are! it's taken my whole life to listen to that! If people don't like your shyness or think you are snobbnes (that's what people thought I was...because I didn't talk alot) then forget them. you will have the best true friends because they will take the time to talk and get to know you. they will be glad that they found a jem of a friend.
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Both loving yourself for who you are and working to improve yourself becuase you must not lifke this part of yourself or you would not be here
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