Shyness Support Group

I'm in an awkward place myself where I don't have many people close to me so the only way people will be close to me ever again is if I venture out on my own. It can be scary but I try to keep in mind all the positive people and experiences I can bring into my life.

Try joining a group or organization. That way you'll start to become familiar with the people each time you go to an event.

I venture out on my own once in awhile. I like go to Border's bookstore to read, or write or browse and get a cup of coffee. Though lately, I've been pushing my comfort zone and have at least one good friend I go out with occassionaly to "practice" those essential social skill I'm a little rusty in :)

Oh I was thinking about Borders....But that's the one place I feel so freaky about! haha I picture myself siting there with a cup of coffee- and doing what? Just sitting at a table by my little lonesome? everybody else seems to have a place to be or a thing to do, and there I am, at a loose end! I always feel like I stick out like a sore thumb, like I must be waiting for a bus or something! This is weird but I think I have to work myself up to it! And what's the pay off anyway? Just more single shots of coffee? I always think I could just as well sit home with a book and a coffee.

I have a tough time going someplace alone especially if it is a social function. Places I do love going alone are book stores and museums...places I can just get "lost" in.

A few years ago I had a friend that gave me her Sting concert ticket because she couldn't go....I wanted to go so bad but didn't because I couldn't bring myself to go alone...not to a concert!

Wendy, Have you ever tried meetup.com? There are all types of activities organized through this site. When you attend a meetup it's usually people like us who are looking to mingle and socialize. I found a social anxiety group through this site.

Wow these are great comments guys! Thanks!

I guess the best way would be to just go up to people in the street and impress them by making out that you're already really popular lol.

Unfortuneatly I think everyone needs a support system first before they can begin to effectively 'filter' through the general public.

And you have my support if that helps at all :)

wendyhi wow you are exactly like me = )

i have gone to regular stores and for a drive but even when i see someone i like i am to shy to do anything = (

I go out alone all the time. I used to have a couple friends to go to the movies with, but we've had a falling out, because their relationship with each other is so abberated that I got sick of hearing about their latest, greatest drama that I sort of said "don't call me anymore to tell me about this".

Yes, it does feel a bit aimless at times to go out alone, but I ride places on my bike, so I know my heart has a direction, and that direction is keeping myself healthy. In my peddle-powered travels, I drop by bars, go to movies, wherever! No shame in going somewhere alone! And, who knows, you might make friends with someone while you're there!