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Letter to my Abuser
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(Note, this is kind of intense with hate I don't know if I'll give it to him or not but I feel so much better after writing it)
Dear Brian, Well happy birthday. My gift to you is this letter. No matter what you tell yourself we know what happened the fighting and the sex. I don't care if you deny it, we know it happened. Dad, Mom, Aunt Barb and a few others know. Bar is on my side, Dad belives me, and I dont' know how mom feels but deep down I believe she knows the truth. How does it feel to know that Dad, Mom, and Barb know I've sucked you dick? Kind of hard to digest. You have been a nightmare on my exsistance. I'm sure someone must of abused you sexually, or at least I hope, for you to do it to me. but that does not make it right. You beat me up, pushed me around, and used me as a blow up doll. How do you sleep at night? Do you ever ask yourself why I don't think you've changed? It's becfasue I never ever got an apology from you. Nothing, not even for the beatings. You may trick mom and Dad but that facade will only last for so long. I used to uct myself because of you. I look back and you're definately not worth it. You may think you've won and I'm no longer apart of the family but they'll need you someday and you'll be too caught up in yourself, or drunk, or high (yes I'm predicting these things) and they'll need em and the tables will turn again. The only reason I don't kill myself is so I can keep advocating myself. They will care enough someday to help me and they'll realize how much damaged you've done and there will be resentment. If I wasn't as strong of a person as I am I would just be locked up in an institution. No matter what lies and denis you spread the truth is known and someday it will come back to haunt you. You're a horrible human being and a waste of matter. I will never celebrate your birthday. but when the day comes and you die, even if I have to wait until I'm 60, I will dance on your grave someday. Your favorite brother, Me P.S> I'm toally sober, just drunk off of hate, don't act like you didn't know I felt this way. Posted on 07/25/08, 01:07 am |
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thats very powerful i think he deserves to read it after all the pain he put you through you are strong stay that way much hope and love
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I am proud of you. It is hard work to put the truth down on paper. The more you exspress this the less of a hold it has on you. In a health and safe forum. There is wisdom on who you pick to hear your story. I just letting you know full restoration is worth it. Do not settle for nothing less then to be whole again. Close enough is a half life and a lie it is not close enough.
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That is a great letter and I know how it hurt to write it. You remember to stay true to yourself and the best revenge is to live a full life.
HUGS
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Good for you! It is so empowering to have your voice heard. I am glad you have told others and are no longer keeping the secret. You can move past this and you will! If your not already in therapy it would be so beneficial for you to do so!!
With love!!
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Wow, what a hard letter to write.
I am so sorry that this happened to you...but you are very right to place blame where it belongs with your ABUSER! I am so proud of you for telling..and for mustering the courage to face this head on. You rock! G
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this letter made mem want to cheer andn dance for you. it is powerful and moving. what will give you even more health than your hatred is...forgiveness. until you forgive he is still controlling you with his assult. anger and hatred are like acid to our lives, if held on too long they make us bitter unloving and unlovable. yes someone did it to him, someone taught him how, but he is responsible for his bhaviors not u. forgiveness doesnt mean what some people think, you dont have to like him, you dont have to talk to him or pretend to be anything but it is accepting, that he is human and flawed, just as we all are. forgiveness is enver about the person that harmed us or their actions, itis about what we choose to have inside of us and what we chose to have coming out of us. i loved this letter. i hope you will consider, being angry is healthy, holding that anger too long will damage you not him.
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very empowering. congradulations. now on to recovery?
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I am so proud of you writing that letter. I recently wrote a letter to my abuser outlining just how I felt and addressing some of the things that he had said. It was totally empowering.
I actually mailed my letter. But I am working with a therapist and spent two sessions talking about it before I was able to mail it. I have spent 1 session talking about it since I mailed it!! If you feel compelled to mail it, do so. If not, hang onto it until you are ready to let your voice be heard! Hope and Love
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The Truth Will be revealed. You are so right. And he will be haunted and reap what he has sown. You are very strong and the letter is powerful. When That day comes, We will all dance together!! =)
Peace to you. Pamela
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