Sexual Abuse Support Group

It is worth it to heal, because life is worth living. I am where you are, and though I may lose sight of the ultimate goal sometimes, that being happiness, It's sometimes in my sights. I know you were looking for the encouragement of someone who has healed, but I don't know that you'll find that here. What you will find is a whole lot of people trying, and in my opinion, that is more encouraging than anything else.

Wendy,

I want to first say, " I am sorry for what you have had to live through!" Abuse is something that can be so damaging, if you allow it to be.

You have to realize what you went through no longer has to continue and you are now in charge of your life. From this point on you are the one that makes decisions to how other's in your life treat you.

I survived a hell of my own and then it seemed to determine who I would be for the rest of my life. Then, I realized I had to face it head on with a therapist and get past what was done to me and realize I had no control as a child but as an adult I call the shots.

You can and you will get through this if you take the right steps. I will say you can't wish it away or pretend it didn't happened. You are a strong individual now with the strength and power to change what happens in your life from here on. You can choose to be that victim or you can choose to become a survivor.

You are now taking the steps to start the healing process and that is wonderful. Continue that path even though it is a difficult one. I remember when I first started to heal from my own hell..I started to realize all the things that happened to me were not my fault but those of the predators around me. I learned coping skills to deal with the effects of the abuse and how they impacted my daily life. I was taught how to rebuild my self- esteem and self-worth that others took from me along the way. I found that strength that allowed me to survive what I went through was still there and I now use that strength to protect me now. I choose who, I want in my life and how I want to be treated. I am too good of a person to allow other's to hurt me. You will also get to this point if you choose to continue to heal.

I want you to know I am here for you! With love!

I do not consider myself healed... but I consider myself well on the way.

I have come from a place of lonely and dark, to a place where I am enjoying living! The work has been tough. It has been the hardest thing I have ever done. It has also been worth it.

I can FEEL again. I can be happy, sad, angry, silly.. whatever..... It is so great. I have learned that a crime was committed and I happened to be the target. Had I not been there, it would have been someone else. Nothing I could do would have stopped my abuser.

Just as Surviv101 said.. I AM IN CONTROL NOW. I know you are too! We are no longer children who keep our mouths shut so that we can survive!

Hope and Love