Sexual Abuse Support Group

I get the whole pushing away from guys. I myself have been very attracted to some, but as soon as you hit a certain point, it's like running into a brick wall (an invisible one). I don't know how to help you or what to say, except that I know what your going through, I'm going through it myself right now.

Yeah I have been there myself. I get to a certain point with guys then turn and run. However I am very comfortable with women yet by all means attracted to men just scared to freaking death of them. I wish I knew what to do because I have thought about this same thing many times. Just know you aren't alone!

your not alone on this one.happens to me too.if i feel not to much attraction for a partner i enjoy being with them.but when i find a big attraction to someone i get scared also is the best way to put it.,then i start doing my thing to destroy it all.and i am just starting to see how this affected me thru out my life .

What your doing is not abnormal for someone that has been abused. My concern is that you mentioned that you are still being abused.

You need to get away from whatever is currently going on. Then you can start to take the steps to heal yourself and get the help you need.

You can learn to trust again. Trust is a huge problem for anyone that has been abused in anyway. We are born to trust those whom are suppose to love and protect us and when that doesn't happen lose the boundaries of who we should trust.

You need to start the healing process and deal with your past if you ever truly want to be able to trust and love!!

Hugs to you!!

i'm uncomfortable around men and women...sometimes i'm more comfortable with men, but i always end up getting used by them; and of course i let them. you'd think i'd learn...but i never do. i don't know what my point is really, sorry

I used to think there was something wrong with me because it was hard for me to trust people (especially guys). Now I realize that trust must be EARNED. You don't have to give it, and then wait for someone to hurt you to take it back; you take time and let someone prove they are safe before being vulnerable.

Like another poster said, please do everything you can to stop the current situation of abuse. Find a teacher, counselor, gym coach, close friend, whoever - preferably an adult. If the abuse is happening in your family, please please please file a report. I swear abuse stops with paperwork and continues without it. I don't know why that's how this works, but it does. Be well.

This is not an abnormal response at all. It can be difficult dating after abuse. Sometimes I think it would be easier if I was a lesbian, lol, but I am not. I just pray there is a man out there who can restore my faith in the rest of the male population.

I can relate to you. My abuse happened when I was very young. I can remember how people have taken advantage of me through the years. I have never felt safe enough to let people in, never dated. I just want you to know that taking the time now to heal, will help you deal with others later. It is ok to say no, I need to take care of myself. I hope this is helpful, take care Painter55

Yes, I can relate to you too. I have experienced sexual abuse and sexual assault. I have also had fear and no trust of guys. AS a consequence I became attracted to girls although I never acted on those impulses and never chose the lesbian life-style. I want to encourage you that you have to hope that there is a tomorrow with a brightere future for you with possibilities of trust in guys and healthy relationships for you in your life. It took for me to find God in my life and learn His will for my life and accept His free gift that there really is hope for a better life than what I knew of. Know I am praying for you - and you are not alone
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This is natural. You have to trust people as much as you dont want to. I am having trouble with that as well. Even though the same types of abuse can happen to men. I woman could relate better to having the exact same thing done to her and her imagining what it must have been like. So it is normal to feel closer to girls when it comes to this. It would come to me when guys would be too aggressive,I.E. talk dirty or grab me in a certain way.