Separation Anxiety Support Group

Frittsjones...I have not found a silver bullet to lay my anxieties to rest. But I am learning to face my anxieties head on as they begin to overtake me. I had to battle the better part of the day today to keep my composure. Twice, while driving, I just allowed myself to break down. I have also started to work on me, it is forced and I don't have much enthusiasm yet, but it will come. I miss talking to my wife everyday. I do still see her, as I pick the kids up for school and bring them home. It is hard to see the woman I love so much and not be able to hug and kiss her. But, she has asked for space and I am slowly but surely giving it to her. I would love to say I am convinced that we will work it out, although I know that we could, but that decision isn't going to be made today. Today, I am working on me. I also use a grounding technique to mellow out my anxiety. It sounds ridiculous, but works for me. When I feel the anxiety kicking in, I just stop and focus on physical things immediately around me, like the chair Im sitting in or the tree outside the window. It helps me to stop living in the "what if" and "should have" worlds and refocus on the here and now. I hope this helps a little. Just take it one day at a time, I had to start with one minute at a time.

Mike

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I've expierenced seperation anxiety in a past relationship. I would spend time with the man I loved and when the time came to part I would go into a depressive seperation anxiety mode. Give or take this was one of the hardest things to deal with when loving someone. Sometimes staying away from individuals you have strong feelings for makes things a little easier.

I'm just realizing that this may be a problem for me. I didn't KNOW that adults have separation anxiety until I accidentally found this community. What Rockstablesolid said makes so much sense to me because that's what I tend to do! "Sometimes staying away from individuals you have strong feelings for makes things a little easier."

I totally understand how u feel mikej. I lost my wife and kid.I have the same problem but nothing works for me. i cant even type this properly because of the anxiety. Its with me every waking moment. I cant get a job because I drop stuff and jump at any sound I cant use a pen because of my shaky hands I cry all the time. I feel like a useless shit. I need help but drugs make me worse. therapy does nothing. I stuck.

I get absolutely scared stiff if my husband has to go away. He chose to go to London for three weeks work last year and I fell totally to bits. I could not cope at all. I do have clinical depression. The idea of him being away at all throws me into a state. Last week we spent a night apart while he went to a funeral in London. Just one night. I coped for the night and then drove to london by myself to meet up with him. No way could I face three days by myself.

I'm on risperdal for bipolar and its the only thing which keeps me sane! lol Without it i dont cope!

sometimes i go for a long walk, sometimes i call a friend and talk to them so i don't feel so lonely, sometimes i try to go do something so i'm not home feeling bad.....sometimes, i am not strong enough to cope, i just cry...

Mike, I don't know how you do it. My husband I have been married for 21 years and recently seperated. I wander through every day lost, trying to figure out what to do with myself. I have very little enthusiasm for life and I try to be strong saying that I believe that somehow it will work itself out and God will bring us back together but I can't even muster up the faith to believe myself anymore. How can someone just walk away after 21 years and not look back? I feel like I lost my best friend....

I'm learning how to cope.
Fortunately tonight my closest friends are coming over.