Rape Support Group

i called him the day following the rape and i asked him how he could do that to me. i was so scared to call, but i knew i had to. i told him that it wasn't my fault and that he should know what he did constitutes as rape. all he kept saying was that he was sorry. well, sorry doesnt mean shit to me.
i went about my life (or at least tried to) for 3.5 months. then one day i told myself i had to do it. i found myself drinking more, wanting guys attention, crying all the time, etc. i knew i had to report him. so, a week ago today, i reported his ass. i still have a lot of anger in me and i cry every day, but i feel better. he doesnt deserve to walk the streets. even if he doesnt get convicted, it will always be on his record. i dont want it to happen to another girl!!!!

Congrats on reporting him. =]

I never reported mine. Last time he did anything to me before I got away was 9 months ago now.

And I can't report him, for a lot of reasons. It will just make things 1000x worse in other aspects of my life than it already is. So I've chosen not to.

I kept in touch via MSN messenger a chat program - I was keeping an eye on him because he was making hints he wanted to do somthing to a younger friend of mine who I had lost contact with. I was uncertain when to broach the subject and how to say it - but then I was concerned he'd do it again, so I decided to talk about it with him online - it was easier because I couldn't see or hear him, also I could keep a record of the conversation. I finally confronted him because I needed to go into school and knew I'd be seeing him anyway, he'd been bugging me for CD's so I thought 2 birds one stone. What he wrote was worse than I had imagined - he said I wasn't the first he'd done it to, and that there was a second time in which he'd tried to force me to do things but luckily I got him off - which I had until recently blocked from my memory. He felt sorry for no one but himself, he said he was sorry but that I should think of him and his feelings, about just how guilty I was making him feel. He's the only guy I know who could admit to being a 3 time attempted rapist and then say how it was the girls fault not his.
But it helped me gain back some of my memory and become stronger - it also re-affirmed that the incidents had not been my fault. He had the problem - and I felt alot less guilty and ashamed.
I actually hugged him, because he wanted me to hit him so he could feel better or so he could get sympathy from onlookers - I was really shocked just how negative other peoples reactions were to me when I came in - I found out it's because he's been saying many different things to them. That made me alittle sad that he had a gang of people to defend him and I was standing very mcuch alone trying not to shake, and knowing that they were oblivious to what had gone on and they wouldn't believe me even if I told them. And alot were old friends, or just strangers. But I feel much better now for doing it.

I was raped 31 years ago. I was 14 at the time. I never told anyone and didn't report it. Well, I did tell my husband just last night. I've torn the wound open now and know that I'm going to have to do some healing.

Mine contacted me several times after, telling me he didn't understand why I was so mad at him. He didn't get that he hurt me.. He finally owned up to it, but it didn't give me any sort of peace.

Nope. couldn`t have possibly reported him. He has to bring money home, to my mam and 2 brothers. He`s been trying to get my forgiveness since I got very ill due to anorexia 3 years after the rape (that was when I started remembering). My rapist is my dad. He ruined my life, but I didn`t let him ruin my familys too. In the meantime, all the time, I make sure my brothers are safe. Looks like he only enjoys little girls!

I reported and spent well over 24 hours in the emergency room, He was never found gulity and the case was dismissed, I may have later ran into him at the local grocery store.

My attacker was a close friend of mine, he rang me a lot afterward but i wasnt ready to talk, acknowledge wat happened then. I spoke to him four weeks ago, (8 months after the rape) he admitted wat he did and apoligised ova and ova. I guess i felt relief at first because i got conformation that it happened and that it was not my blame/shame to carry. We talked for a long time, i got alot of my chest; even thou it was hard and we finally said gudbye, i wished him all the best an in a way we made r peace/ got closure. Ive been up and down since wonderin if its enough, but It finally started making sense, it took me this long to come to terms with the fact that he; someone i cared for could do that, i started movin on, and then my worlds turned on its head because he killed himself last week, and i have no idea how to feel!?!