Pregnancy Support Group

omg, I swear we have the same MIL. Luckily I have offended mine enough times that this time she won't even be in town for the babies birth lol. Let her buy all the stuff she wants, maybe she can sell it at a garage sale next summer.

My MIL is overbearing, but this is extreme. I agree with jennyjustjenny, let her waste her money. You and your DH are the parents, remember, YOU set the rules. Stick to your guns like I plan on doing and she'll hopefully back off after a while. My MIL plans on taking a week vacation and staying at our house. Ha...NOT HAPPENING. We are having our baby next week so she'll get her wake up call real soon. My MIL seems to forget that I have a mother who is very, very close and active in my life. I don't appreciate one bit her trying to push my mom to the side and step in as my mom. My MIL has a daughter that she's experienced these things with already, she's going to learn that it's time to back down and give my mom the chance. Grrr...I'm with ya girl!!!

Okay, I have not yet experienced this particular issue (because I'm so early into my pregnancy and she doesn't know yet!), but I would say you need to stick to your guns!!!! I know I will because my MIL likes to "invite herself" (and several members of her family) to my house so I'm anticipating having this discussion later too (I would rather have my mom there than her). Anyhow, when it comes down to it, if you've told her enough times and she still doesn't get it, let her keep spending her $ and living in her fantasy world. Don't stress over it. You know that you will do what's best for you and your baby no matter what, and that's what matters!

just be glad she wants to help out! My MIL is overbearing as well, about everything but the babysitting. She will not babysit our daughter for anything. She practically have to pull her teeth to get her to even spend time with her. It's really a shame.

ha ha mgabmt--I almost wish she'd never want to babysit! She's already gone down to 1-day a week for work so she can have the kid every Friday. (yes, without asking) Baby's not due until Dec. and I'm on maternity leave until April, and hubby's taking baby until I am on summer break basically. So, we don't need a babysitter on a weekly basis until next September!!

it's not my MIL, it's my mother. I just let her buy things and think what she wants. My mom isn't good at accepting things that are said to her, like she didn't even hear them. I agree...let her buy whatever she wants to buy and maybe after the baby is here she'll realize. Does your husband support/stand up for your wishes?

Girl, sometimes you got to lay down the law! I agree with the girls, let her spend her money... Alteast your MIL cares. Mine has never once asked about me OR the baby. Yet she will fly my husband out to see her whenever he wants but never offers to buy me a ticket. She is the most self-aborbed woman I have ever known. I am just greatful she lives halfway across the state and I never have to see her.

If I were you I would watch her in the beginning. You need to make sure that your rules are set out and that she doesn't try to do things behind your back. My cousin's MIL does alot of that and it confuses the kids. I just wish I had some of this problem just so that my husband can have his mom and share this new experience with her. Although, I know that my MIL would respect our wishes. My problem would have been my MIL and my own mother spoiling our baby. Just be prepared and have a talk with her right away if she steps on your toes. I would just let her spend her money and let her realize in time that she was wasting her money because you want her watching the baby at your house. Don't worry too much just enjoy this time before the baby comes then when it comes enjoy all that time getting to know your child. This is your time. Take care.