Pregnancy Support Group

I have in-laws like that... I find it much more difficult to deal with them now that I am pregnant. I don't know if the hormones make me more irritable or if they're just in my face more... my best strategy (not always working) is to try to stay away from them. Good luck.... I feel your pain.

thanks.. but at the moment we HAVE to live with the my husbands sister.. long story.. she pays the rent we pay everything else...so we are paying our share but cant afford our own place.... and her kids have no respect for anything.. she has no respect for anyone.. her daughter who is 21 has a child of her own and comes in and out of here like she owns the place and she doesnt live here... and they take whatever they want.. look through stuff that doesnt belong to them.. i actually saw the daughter one time.. going through the cupboards and freezer like she was shopping and took stuff with her when she went.. i mean... the fact that they come here.. and run the place and he and i cant even have any privacy or respect... and they have no issues going through our things or using our things when we are not here.. it just makes me crazy.. and i dont know how to not let it.. i dont know how to let it go.. i dont know how to not let it effect me while we are here... we wont be here forever obviously just until we get ourselves sorted but ... AAAHHHHGGGGGG

OH wow I thought I was the only one with in-laws like this!!!! I feel for you. My in-laws are very nosey and I swear they hate me and want me and my husband to get a divorce. My mother-in-law is a very outspoken person....she tells you what she feels reguardless of how it may make you feel. In my experience, you have to get right back at them!!! My mother-in-law tried to tell me HAD to name my daughter Ashley Renae because that's what she wanted to name her daughter?! (oh, yes she did) I went crazy. I screamed in her face infront of the entire family, if you want to name another child why don't you go have you own and quit trying to take over mine! Well needless to say she has never mentioned naming the baby since! Honey, you might just have to get aggressive with these people. Let them know straight up how you feel. Hey it can't hurt. But if your S-I-L is paying the rent try not to be to harsh Ha Ha. You really don't need to being going through all of it and they should realize this??!! AAGGGGHHHHH I really don't know what else to tell you, but I do know what you are going through and I can sympothize! GOOD LUCK!

thanks... i mean my husband helped them out so much when we were making good money.. did everythign for them.. this woman never appreciated anything.. even would take his income tax checks and cash them.. he never got the money.. she kept it.. abuse abuse abuse... now that we have to live here... and she is paying the rent.. i mean we pay the rest.. but the rent yes she does pay it is like he doesnt count and i am slave.. and thats how i get treated.. but because we dont have a choice right now.. i dont say anything and just feel like a sack of crap all the time.. i wish i could come right out and say what i feel.. but we need this roof right now.. ya know... thanks for letting me vent though...and for understanding..at least now i dont feel like i am all alone in how i am feeling..oh yes he hates it too.. but havig the support of others outside of all this makes a difference.

unbelievably it isnt my in laws doing my head in its my own family. they are trying to take over everything to with the baby and if you read my other post you will get to know what type of situation im in myself. the best thing you can do is try and talk to these people with your husband at the side of you and if that doesnt work then maybe look for a bedsit no matter how crummy and cramped its guna be at least it will be your own?? forget what they want hun and think of your upcoming family. is the house yours or hers? if its yours (this isnt going to be nice) then maybe throw her out and get a lodger in who is going to respect you and your husband? by the sounds of it shes already gettin away with a lot cos the rent cant eb as much as the bills for electric, food, gas etc?? i know ours isnt !! if shes payin less and behaving like this she needs sorting out hun! talk to your husband but you cant carry on like this! you have to think of you and baby and daddy hun and that sometimes means being selfish. its not nice but sometimes you dont have a choice hun. take care and look after yourself and bubs. xxx

thanks Gaynor... unfortunately it is her apartment... but i revel in the fact that once we do have our own place.. i will never have to deal with her or her kid again. thanks for the support.

HA... my mother in law is the worst!

We have started referring to her as "DR Pam" and told her she needs to go open her own hospital since she knows everything about everything.

She has said some really dumb stuff just to be mean and to make herself look like she is the best...

I guess i gave birth wrong and everything. She even was pissed at me because almost 24 hours went by after the baby was born and she didn't see him yet... well... sorry- they could have visited the hospital or something.
Then we vsited them after a couple days- after the 2 kids doctors appointents (one was the newborn and we had to take him to the hospital for blood tests and stuff too).. long day and she called later to make sure i knew that I was in a bad mood and was being a bitch....
sorry- I was tired... FROM CHILDBIRTH!

ugh... if i could write down all the things she has said... I would have a wonderfully negative book- that would almost make me laugh from being so absolutely ridiculous.

Then... there is my mom....
she barely even admits I have been pregnant... with all 3 of my kids..
When i had morning sickness or felt bloated- she said it was probably something i ate- and was maybe an allergy to something. (no- couldn't be because a BABY WAS GROWING INSIDE ME)
my swollen ankles must have been from a bee sting... yea, that is it.

wow mkat.. girl.. i feel the pain.. i guess the bright side is you dont live with them and can choose not to answer the phone right.. my bright side.. i wont be living with her forever and i dont HAVE to deal with her once i leave.. that will be my decision.. harder if it was my mother.. hugs girl!

Maybe you could sit down with your sister in law, and lay down some ground rules, both for her and you. Maybe there's something that you could do for her, and in return, her daughter could stop helping herself to your food (which is ignorant by the way).

I have inlaws like that too. Let me just tell you she is one of the worst. I am a heavy set woman and when I was 7 1/2 months pregnant she had the nerve to tell someone that I was not showing yet that she could tell. First off I was deffinatly showing. And to make me feel that way when I already felt all big and pregnat. Lets just say that I have my baby and in an iteresting way the control now.