Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Sometimes, it takes a while to get a reply depending on what people are doing. There are lots of knowledgeable ladies on this site. Just keep checking back for replies periodically tonight.

I just sent you a message and added you as a friend if you are still on line check it out. I will talk to you and I will help you out.

krism, if you are not married and he is not on your title/lease, have him evicted, or arrested for tresspassing. Call your local precinct and ask for advice from one of the officers who handles DV. They can send uniformed cops over there and tell him he has to leave or he risks arrest.

What he is doing is a CRIMINAL offense. Hold him accountable. He has NO RIGHT to do this to you, and you have the legal right to your own property.

Thank you ladies, I just got booted from the net, but am back on. Thank you so much. Because his things are there I don't think I can have him arrested, I will have to check. But I have never had him arrested before, I don't think I could take the guilt.

Thank you ladies, I just got booted from the net, but am back on. Thank you so much. Because his things are there I don't think I can have him arrested, I will have to check. But I have never had him arrested before, I don't think I could take the guilt.

Forget the guilt. You don't owe him any loyalty if he has been ill-treating you. The police may not even arrest him, just remove him from the property on your behalf. At least make the call, so you know what your options are.

Yes forget the guilt it is your apartment. Once you have him removed and his belongings removed if you still want to move that is fine. As long as you are paying for the place you should not let him in there. What if he does any damage? you will get stuck paying for it. You don't deserve to be on the run or forced out of your home. Just call the police and tell them he brought his belongings there without your consent and he refuses to leave and you want them to remove him. The get a pfa so he can't come back.

Thank you laides, all of you for your kindness to me during this very difficult time. I am going to go ahead and move into a new apartment in the town that I am staying in. The old apartment that he refuses to leave is on a month to month basis. I know logically that I should feel no guilt, but I really still do not want to get the police involved. I think that would make him madder. I am cutting off the gas and the cable so now more hot showers and basketball playoffs for him! I told him yesterday his things needed to be out by Wednesday. This is the only thing I responded to though all day was filled with his messages to me about how terrible I was, and how much he loved me and wanted me to come home, blah blah blah, that's real logical huh?

There is also a number of hotlines that you can call for help. I wish I had the one I had called before. They will help you find a safe haven and get you in touch with the proper authorities. Let me see if I can find the number online.

please be careful in feeling guilt for having him removed. I think that may be clouding your judgement becuase you need to know that your name is on the lease and when he trashs the apartment and does not leave you will have a judgement against YOU and you will be accountable for the thousands of dollars that your landlord will take you to court for. I run a buisness where I am th elandlord and I would sue you because I leased to property to you not him. He is your guest and so you are accountable for the rent and damages that occur. Even if you want to move on to the new apartment you should have him removed. If he is not getting mail there and he is not on the lease then he has to leave. the police can remove himor you can simply tell him the law and tell him you don't want to call the police but you have to protect your credit and money. I help people repair credit and so I know what this can do to yours.