Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

I think that stinks too...but i don't blame DS i blame the ppl using it for that purpose...u should contact DS about this and they will take the steps to insure these ppl act properly...i agree about the friends thing too it is give and take..but sometimes ppl just take and half of them don' even realize they are doing it cuz they are so caught up in themselves...i would advise just confront them and if they don't change then there is a friend u don't need remove them....HUGGERZ:)

Yes, if you don't like the person, put them on "ignore". DS is what we make it. I like making nasty and/or manipulative people vanish here. If only it was so easy in real life. Mmm...scary thought that.

i totally agree. thats not what it is here for xx some people x

While I have never had that problem on this site I do agree with the post. DS is not a dating site.

I had a guy I didn't know come on like a knight in shining armour saying he wanted to help me. Yuk and puke! There was a new woman who acted as if we were platonic soul mates but it was all a con.

I know that DS has a very low tolerance for this type of behavior because that runs counter to the reasons for its existence. That being said, many people will misinterpret or try to take advantage of a site where people are encouraged to bare their souls in what appears to be a "safe" environment. If you feel violated in any way, there are steps you can take to protect yourself and keep it from happening again.

One, you have already done. A gentle reminder from time to time that this is an open environment and anyone can post here, even those that would take advantage. We all need those from time to time to help keep our guard up. You have done that in posting here. Thank you.

Two, if someone crosses the line of what you feel is apropriate, you can ignore them to keep them from coming back into your line of sight. I know that this is "after the fact," and sometimes the damage is already done, but it does limit future behavior.

Three, report the behavior to DS. Virtually every page in DS has a "report abuse" link, and suggestive, manipulative and flirtatious remarks are definitely against the terms of service for this site. Report the abuse, and DS will take it seriously, as it runs against the grain of what this site is intended for.

Hang in there, and don't let the acts of a few spoil the help you are able to get here.

I'm new here,too, and I have reached out to a few people. I've also had a few reach out to me for which I'm very grateful.

My heavens, we're all on here trying to get away from inappropriate behaviour and to be faced with it on here could be too much for some that are in a super vulnerable state of mind!

It's not fair that guouls invade even a group like this, Raymond, and I hope you continue to seek support here.

I am so glad this subject came up, and I do agree this should not be used as a dating service. If I send a hug to any of you, it is sincere. No strings attached. As a teacher, I am very aware of unwanted and unwelcomed messages. Simply reporting it or refusing to answer back should start sending a clear message and....all of the responses on this page should cement our feelings. Thanks for posting your concerns everyone.

It happens. I have had two guys approach me for "dating" type stuff and even asked me for private info. outside of the DS site. I'm not here to date either. For pete's sake I'm on a physical and emotional abuse group looking for support and to give support. The last thing I'm looking for is a date. But, to each his or her own. Just hit ignore and move on. :)

I AM NOT SAYING EVERYONE IS THIS WAY. THERE ARE MANY GOOD PEOPLE ON HERE AS WELL BUT THERE IS MANY THAT DO USE THIS SITE FOR THINGS IT IS NOT FOR. PEOPLE COME HERE AS A CRY FOR HELP AND ADVICE AND FRIENDSHIP. IF IT LEADS TO MORE FOR SOME THEN THATS GOOD BUT PEOPLE THAT MISS USE THIS SITE SHOULD HAVE A LITTLE RESPECT FOR OTHERS ON HERE. THATS ALL I AM SAYING. ALSO IF PEOPLE WANT TO BE INAPPROPRIATE THEN DO IT WITH SOMEONE IN ANOTHER SITE LIKE MYSPACE, BEBO, FACEBOOK, OR IN YAHOO CHAT, OR IF ON HERE MAKE SURE THE OTHER PARTY KNOWS THAT THAT IS YOUR INTENTION RIGHT FROM THE START INSTEAD OF HIDDEN AGENDAS AND DECEPTION. I DO NOT CALL HUGS AND STUFF HITTING ON SOMEONE BUT WHEN THEM HUGS COME WITH SEXUAL COMMENTS THEN YES THATS INAPPROPRIATE I THINK AND WRONG. "