Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) or is u...
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i have been married for 9 months
i have been with this guy for almost 4 years he was never abusive until we got married. lats saturday he threw me into the wall a few times because i wanted to leave and go to a friends house. he was very physical. grabbing me and holding down on the bed so i couldnt leave. he is not only physical but emotionally. whenever i want to go somewhere he comes up with some lame ass excuse on why he doesnt want to go then says something along the lines of well you shouldnt go cause i want you here. then if i do go. (i maybe go out other than school once or twice a month) he texts me constantly and calls me to see where i am and what im doing and who im with. he tries to make me feel bad and tells me my friends arent good enough for me and he doesnt like them. so i shouldnt hang out with them because he is my husband and he comes before them. so now i have decided im not going to take this. i need to know how to save up money to get out. right now i am in Washington state and i need to save money to get me and my car and my belongings to Massachusetts and if anyone knows how much it would cost for travel to get there. i get school money financial aid and student loans but he askes me on a daily basis how much money you got? and wont tell me how much he has. i cant have my own bank account either. and if i tell anyone they will tell him especially my mom. he expects me to pay all th rent with the 7500 i get a year from school and he makes 25grand a year. where did his money go? in any case i plan on being gone in august. before our first year anniversary. and i want to just run while he is at work. but i need a way to save the money. any suggestions? Posted on 05/15/08, 11:05 am |
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There is a group here called Help Escaping a Toxic Relationship. If you go to the abuse main board it is listed right under the topics. I am a member of that group. I just bumped 2 topics to the top of the list. The first is an Escape Kit and the 2nd is a safety plan. Honey this man has been physically abusive and it stands to reason that this is going to escalate as soon as you do something he can not control - like leave him. You are smart to plan first and even smarted to plan on doing it while he is at work.
Check out the group, join it, and let us help you. We are all there as a resource for you. 
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Battered women's shelters might be able to help you as well. Please don't stay with violence like that. He may seriously injure you or kill you. What if you get pregnant? Please get help soon.
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