A phobia (from the Greek "fear"), is a strong, persistent fear of situations, objects, activities, or persons. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive, unreasonable desi...
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Hi all,
Have just had a very miserable weekend, with my social anxiety at an all time high. I find the weekends so hard! I can cope with avoiding most social situations during the week, but, at the weekend everyone comes out to play!! This scares me so much i just retreat big time. This weekend we had three things to go to and predictably i didnt make any of them, and because im the only driver in the household it meant hubby and molly couldnt go either, they were fine about it but Im not, I really dont want to be teaching my daughter that staying in is how to live, Im lucky that my husband is really extravert so takes Molly out on his own most of the time, but I am missing out on so much and so are they, I hate having to cancel arrangements. But thats what usually happens. Anyway was just wondering how people cope with their social phobia or other phobais for that matter with families, Its so hard, I feel like I inflict it on them too Thanks for listening xx Posted on 03/10/08, 01:03 pm |
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I do alot of self talk right before I go to an event.I have this great fear of having to talk to people and I get alot of anxiety. This has been the only thing that has helped me. If I dont feel like fighting it, then thats when I stay home. 
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I found my kids have been a HUGE motivation for me to get out there and fight back against sociaphobia. In the past I felt terrible about sheilding them from social situations. I feared they'd learn to be afraid because they see it in me. I know I've deprived them of a lot of great situations and fun.
Now days we do so much more. It's still hard a lot of the time but it gets easier every time we take another step. They're both so understanding. At seven and three they also make a great social buffer when I really need it (less and less these days). Gain strength from your concerns about your children. Use those your daughter as leverage to get help and develop courage. Embrace the wonder of a supportive family and use them to gain strength. Yes, there will be times when you just can't manage but the more you try, the more you push your boundaries, the more you lean on your loved ones to get out the door, the easier it will get and the more willing you'll be to try next time. If you push too hard to fast it's ok to step back and take a day in or make an alternative (non-social, the park? the beach? the movies? etc.) event instead. I believe in you Anastacia! I know there is a confident, outgoing woman hiding inside you. Let her free. :-)
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take the rough with the smooth and learn to dismis and reconise errational fears, if you think some think is going to be uncomfortable then it will be ?? tell your self that the little journey to the shop os going to be fine and refreshing as opposed to utter dread!! ? bye take care
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