Pet Bereavement Support Group

It will be 1 month on May 5th and things are getting better. I put flowers and a poem with some photos of her taped to the tree where she was hit, the first weekend after she died. Then her ashes were finally here about 3 weeks after her death. Just having them here in my home makes things so much better. I have her ashes in a teak box with a celtic knot signifying the mind, body, spirit which brings me comfort. I cuddle the box and hold it close to my heart and mediate with it., put it on my lap when I watch movies of have it beside me when I sleep. I have a journal that I use to write to her when I am feeling low or when I am having a good day. It is very helpful. When I feel brave enough I go to the tree or to the places we went together, like the dog park to try and remember the good times. I've recommended this book a few times... "Life After Loss" by Bob Dietz has been a great book to understand grief and the grieving process. "Goodbye Dear Friend" is another one that is specifically about losing pets. Hope these help. It does get better though with time and patience. :)

it's been 2 1/2 months. it still hurts...and yet i'm functioning again. i'm still sad. i still think of her as much as ever.

it's weird but her spirit is still here. or maybe my memories are so vivid that when i'm at home i see her everywhere in my mind's eye.

i think everyone's recovery from loss takes different forms and time lines.

i don't how i can be functioning at all, since my best friend died. i guess after i had to return to work, i was forced to have other things going on in my life again. it was just me and her at home for three weeks before her death. then i was home in agony until i had to put on a face and go among people again. but i had two weeks to really do a lot of loud (very loud) mourning. and (big one) it helped to have her ashes back in less than 24 hours. i have a permanent collection of things she liked and pictures and cards, candles. it's comforting to have some of her things and some other things that represent her and her spirit to me in one place where i can see it every day.

i was lucky to be with her nearly 15 years.

Its been 9 lonely weeks today since Holly died and although I'm doing all the routine, day to day things, my heart is still very heavy and both my husband and I are still very emotional.
She came everywhere with us, and so touched every part of our lives in a wonderful way, she just brought us so much joy. ,
Her ashes, in a beautiful casket, are under my bed, near my head, where she often used to lie and I speak to her every day..
When I leave this earth the little box will come with me. Its such a tiny casket to hold so much of our hearts.
I am a grandmother with 5 lovely grandchildren and I don't want them to know how sad I am, so being able to speak to like minded friends on this site helps me to express some of the feelings which are churning up inside.

I am coming up on 10 months for Shadow and 4 months for Sierra.. i still cry when I think about them, my house still feels so empty

I hasn't been a week yet, but I got past the first few days and I'm feeling like I can get past this eventually. I know I will always love and miss my sweet baby boy, but I know I can't dwell on his death forever. I know that I need to think of him and all the memories and the funny things he did and not just the day I found him lifeless.

I know only in time I will be able to think of him and not cry, but right now I just have to grieve in my own way. If I don't, it will never get any easier.

As we read each others stories it becomes a little easier, just a little bit better every "time". And we carry or losses in different ways, some with pictures and memorials, Visiting places, parks, trees, or keeping ashes close to our spirit , or with a vision and a glimpse of what we're so use to seeing , for many years.

It seems a little lighter when there are so many of us sharing everyones loss. It's cool that the weight gets distributed and people are helping others

We have two things in common.
1.We all hurt and fell the loss deeply, because we loved deeply.
2.We are all getting better and healing a little everyday. Some hearts will take longer to heal, and the celebration of our loved ones life will begin to out weigh the loss of life. Know what I mean?

The death only took a few seconds, but the life lasted for years. At some point I'm going to look forward to recalling memories of Leah and telling funny stories again with smiles and laughter.

If you're working on a poem, drawing, inspiration journal, song, or funny memory, please post it here. I'd like to see people as they heal how they express the celebration of the life of our loved pets.

Some days are tough, or just reaching milestones help. The first day, night, 24, one week, the ashes, month, birthday, special event, year and so on.

I'm working on a song, but it's tough to sing the words. I want to make it cool and special and have the ability to perform it without breaking down. I, because it's really about all our pets. 'll send it to those as a gift if you like

Only one break down today. {:~D~

I was doing better on Friday, Saturday and part of Sunday, but Sunday night, yesterday and especially last night were hard. I feel like I took a step forward and two back the last few days.

I know, it's weird that way. Someday'you make it all the way till it becomes dark, or the early morning light will trigger another scene and take you back. The good thing, I always feel like I return to the place I left, when I regress. Know what I mean? And that's nice. It's passing the milestones that help. Looking forward to celebrating her life soon.
Rstar wishing everyone a beautiful day

I am coming up on two months on the 10th that I had to put my beloved Siamese kitty daughter, Sonny, who was 2 months shy of her 17th birthday, to eternal rest. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make.
I created two scrapbooks for her before she died. I had her cremated (the only animal companion I've ever done that with), and her ashes are in both a beautiful urn on our mantel in front of an 8x10 pic of her, and in a small, paw print silver pendant I wear always on a chain around my neck. I have also written a poem for her and just bought scrapbook items to put on the poem when I put it in my poetry scrapbook. I have created a raised bed heart garden in memory of Jake and Sonny (Jake was 3 and a victim of a car). The garden has chicks and hens, pink creeping phlox, and pink dianthus. The next project after the poem is I am going to make a paw print cement mold stepping stone. I have flat blue marbles to put her name in and broken fish china to put fish in. I also have the red colorant to make it look more like a paw. It seems like it's never enough to honor Sonny. She is such a part of my life even while she is in the spirit world, much younger and healthier, full of zest for life, learning what she needs to learn, and having fun, most of all. She takes me on spirit journeys when I ask her to before I go to sleep sometimes. I miss her sooooooo much. Sonny, mommy loves you, honny. I know you know that. I look forward to being reunited with you.