Personality Disorders Support Group

it's a bit of a generalisation, we are all not monsters, try reading some of the books in the recommendation section - there are some really good books listed there.

All humans have the capacity to be abusive, manipulative, and controlling. Some peeps with BPD just exhibit those behavior more often for *whatever* reason. It is very important to distinguish the person from the behavior!!! People with BPD or the accompanying behaviors and not inherently bad people...but they may not find that their "deeply ingrained coping techniques" are making their lives very satisfying...I know that's often the case for me.

I have Cluster B personality disorder..enough traits from borderline, narcissistic and histrionic (at least 5 I guess) to qualify me for a personality disorder). I'm also philosophical, intelligent, & spiritual. But I used to go into rages and although medication has curiously stopped that, I'm still very weird in my significant relationship (my husband has "issues" too). But I have often no awareness whatsoever of my "disorder-related" behaviors, which absolutely stumps me, no clue that I "create drama, manipulate, bla bla bla." When my husband tells me this I feel so hurt and like he is making it up. Other times, I DO recognize it. It took me a LONG time after the diagnosis to start catching myself though. It was a long, painful process. But you can change it. That's what I am hoping to find more of on this site, people with p.d.s who i can talk to about actually working on our negative traits to see if we can get rid of them. I know you can actually lose the diagnosis :)

i have to agree with you, i've felt the same way. especially when i read the part about being incapable of empathy, unless we have some sort of ulterior motive behind it. bull. if that's true, then why do i cry when animals are hurt? what could i expect in return from an animal? i suppose not all people fit all criteria. i know how u feel tho, the diagnosis of bpd for me was a crushing label i'm finding hard to accept. the scary part is, for me, i had no borderline symptoms for 14 years and then, lo and behold, they came back. i thought i was 'cured'. lol. guess not.