Parents of Children with ADHD Support Group

I don't know if this will work for you, some people don't agree with it but a friend of mine told me it worked for her and I tried it on my kids when they were 6 or 7 and it was quite successful with two of them (out of three) I told them that if they continued with the unwanted behavior,(with one it was knocking over furniture and hitting and kicking me at age 6) that there would be a consequence. I didn't tell them what it was. The next time my son knocked over furniture and kicked me I picked him up, carried him to the bathroom, turned the cold water on in the shower and stuck him in it. I only doused him for a few seconds, enough to get him soaking wet. I then sat him down on the toilet seat, told him he would no longer be allowed to kick, hit or knock over furniture. I dried him off, dressed him in new clothes, told him I loved him and sent him off to play. It took only once! With son no.2 it took three times and I gave up after six tries with son #3(over a three week period)...it did help in modifying his behavior a bit, but he is very stubborn and over time I learned that what worked with the other two didn't work with him. This is a good alternative to spanking, yelling, or otherwise pulling your hair out. It doesn't hurt the child, it is very important to be calm and let them know that it is a consequence for bad behavior that will no longer be tolerated. This may or may not be something that you choose to try, it worked for me. Best of luck.

my talks loud and gets violent, too. Medication is the only things that seems to help.

welcome to the group and I know where yor coming from. My 9 year old is loud all day,talks loud,yells and even needs the tv loud, it drives me crazy. it sounds crazy but a friend told me about it she asked her son what is the one thing he hates the most that she does and he said nagging.so she had a contest of who can do it the least and whoever lost had to clean the other ones room for a week and whoever won got to have dinner wher ever they wanted. She said it really made him realize how often he yelled by keeping a tally sheet, Just thought I would pass it on.Good luck!!! I find making a game out of it with ADHD kids really works because it is more there speed.