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Reply #1 -
05/15/08
3:00pm
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I think your mom probably gets so frustrated because she herself had a difficult time with anxiety. I've had similiar problems with my mother she shes finally opened up to me that not only does she constantly worry about me with my anxiety, but she feels guilty like its her fault that I have anxiety- whether it be through genetics or how she raised me. This isn't the case at all because she's a great mom, and I'm sure your mom is too! But I think its a fear that is bound to grow in the back of their minds.
My only advice would be to have a heart to heart with her.. sit her down and say flat out, "I know this is scary and I know you worry, but it really makes it harder on my anxiety when I feel like you're constantly getting frustrated with me"
I bet she'll open up.
Good Luck!
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Reply #2 -
05/15/08
3:48pm
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Sweetie, i completely understand. Anxiety and Panic sufferers tend to have a "safe person" who they cling to in order to feel calm and relaxed. My person happens to be my mom. I have been dealing w/ this for 8 years. And for a very long time she was wonderful, (still can be) but she will say to me over and over, "I just don't understand it. I just don't get it. Why are you letting it get to you." Someone who has never suffered an attack cannot possibly comprehend what we go through. You can't MAKE her understand. What you should do is just talk to her about what you go through, have her research panic and anxiety symptoms on-line, even have her go INTO the room with you when you meet with the doctor. She needs to be understanding, and the only way that will happen is when she recognizes that this IS a real thing. Just try to talk to her calmly, and tell her that you don't WANT to live like this, and instead of being hard on you, you need her support. And again, i'm telling you, have her talk to the doctor with you. She needs to hear it from him.
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Reply #3 -
05/15/08
3:53pm
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I completely agree with Mol. Find a peaceful, calm place to sit and talk to her about it. Ask her how she feels and, most importantly, LISTEN to what she has to say. Let her know you love her and how important her support is to you at this time. She needs just as much support right now as you do. I know that's not an easy process for us anxiety/panic sufferers, but its totally necessary.
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Reply #4 -
05/15/08
4:25pm
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This is the same issue i have with my mom. She even stop calling me as much and rarely visits me as if it's contagious or something. She even told me it happened to her and that it's all in my head.
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Reply #5 -
05/15/08
4:42pm
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Thanks for the support, it's very hard because I know she is suffering watching this happen to me and she probably does feel guilty in some way. I will definitely try to invite her to one of my pshychiatry appointments. I'm sorry that you have the same problem hopelesscase because I know what you mean be contagious. It feels like the more you try to get comfort, the more you bring everyone else down and it's very hard to a balance.
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Reply #6 -
05/17/08
10:37pm
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Hi Sara. I don't know your medical history or anything, but if you have a panic disorder that's not something you're inventing in your brain, it's a physically based condition that causes you to have panic attacks and could cause you to feel fearful all of the time. I've had it for years, but found a psychiatrist who properly diagnosed me and gave me medication for it. The panic went away. If I can help you, please let me know. Nicki
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Reply #7 -
05/18/08
1:03am
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I am currently trying to get on with my normal life without any medication. Do you think this is possible? Because I find myself thinking of the worst reasons behind every ache and pain I have now, and it doesn't seem like my irrational fears will never go away.
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Reply #8 -
05/18/08
6:00pm
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I think it's just a person decision that only you can make regarding taking meds. Personally, this is how I see it. If we had diabetes or high blood pressure that was uncontrollable, we would take meds. to help with the symptoms because it is an illness. Anxiety, depression, and other mental disorders are illness as well. My body and mind do not respond well to antidepressants, but I do very well with anxiolitics (antianxiety meds.) So, it's really up to you and what you feel comfortable with. Good luck, hun. I'm here for ya!
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