Dyspareunia is painful sexual intercourse, due to medical or psychological causes. The term is used almost exclusively in women, although the problem may occur in men. The causes a...
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Wow, I cant believe I have found a forum about this!
Before giving birth to my daughter, I had an active sex life and there was no pain. After the birth- continueing up until about 12 1/2 months after her birth- intercourse was horribly painful for me. I believe this to be one of the reasons my relationship with my child's father deteriorated. He has a high sex drive and I tried to get out of it every time because I knew what was coming. I felt like I was a virgin again- but 10 times worse- every time we had sex. I would have pain inside- it felt like everything was always swolen and sore... shooting pains, feeling like I was being ripped open... it made it such a horrible experience for me. After 6 months, my daughters father asked me to get help.. so I went to the Doctor... and her advice was... 'Try masturbating-it should loosen everything up more.' I didnt even want to have intercourse with my then fiance- why would I want to put MYSELF through the pain?! I havent heard of anyone feeling like this... It has totally turned me off sex- and I would be happy to never have sex again because of this. I guess thats the only upside to the breakup of my relationship with my babies daddy... I dont have to have sex now! However, it would have been nice to not have these problems at all... then we would probably still be together, and happy! Posted on 10/09/07, 02:10 am |
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I have the same problem now after having my daughter. And it didn't help that I didn't have sex for over a year after she was born. I was reading someone else's post and they said something about the Nuvaring. And now thinking the Nuvaring did make it worse for me. Don't know if you're using but that could help a little maybe?! 
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Nope, wasnt using the Nuvaring... we werent using anything.
Not to worry now- we have split and I wont be having sex with anyone for a LOOOOOONNNNG TIME!
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I haven't had a child yet, but I've been having this problem for about 3 years now. It used to be a stabbing pain. Now its like a dull pain...that's the only way to describe it. Its physically frustrating at times, but it mostly hurts me emotionally. Thank God I have an understanding husband...I think if I was with anybody other than my husband, they'd be long gone by now!!! I think (and hope) my pain is now brought on by my mind, so to speak...I think its the anticipation of the pain. I hope its not something physically wrong...I've been doing some reading on the web and I probably shouldn't have...I get this information and then I start worrying. I have my annual with my OB/GYN on Nov 1st...finally! I have more questions for her now and I really want to fix this and move past it. And, more importantly, I want to have a baby in the worst way and wonder if dysparaunia is inhibiting me from getting pregnant...it certainly isn't any help!!!! And I agree with you Ink, it is helpful knowing that other people are going through this...not that I would wish this on anyone!!! And I'm very sorry that your baby's dad left you because of this...its certainly not your fault. When I brought this up with my doctor last year at my annual she said this is a common complaint by woman and not to be embarrassed.
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i also have those pains and after we are done i have to sit in the featel position for about a hour and down about a hand full of pain killers just to be able to move my husband sometimes understands but when he wants it he wants it i try to avoid it but i know if he dosent get he will leave so i can feel your pain emotionly and phisyicaly.
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My son is two and I have had painful intercourse since he was born. I had a C-section so I'm not sure what is going on. One time I did have a yeast infection that made it worse. During that time it was so bad I wanted an episiotomy to have sex! Same thing in that I felt like I was being ripped open. I have found that using tampons during that time of the month and trying to have more frequent sex actually helps. Also I was prednisone for another reason and it seemed to help too. I had pain free sex for the first time in over 2 years. I'm sure you can imagine how that made me feel! I'm bringing up those "side effects" the next time I'm at the doctor.
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wow. this group is amazing! i thought i was the only one. i felt horrible because I dont want my husband to think I am not turned on by him--I am, I just have trouble getting him inside and it is really painful getting started. Then things get better after a bit of sex and it feels great; but, afterwards I hobble around and am sore for days. Plus peeing just kills afterwards. I also cannot stand him touching the clit as it is just waaaay too sensitive. Its not like I dont like sex or cant cum, I do--it just hurts a lot. Anyways, I am really excited about this community and to see that I am not some sort of weird freak...
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wow i thought i was alone on this too. i have days that i avoid sex because of the pain it causes.i love it so it makes it hard to say no all the time but my hubby does not understand that i hurt so bad afterwards.i get to the point of bleeding a little afterwards and i feel swollen and stay sore for days after.what can we do? i can not really talk to a doctor about it because i dont know how to start talking about it.all i know is i have to get some relief soon.
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