Obesity Support Group

Don't let her over shadow you in your heart. You are doing this for YOU. You should be proud of your accomplishements, regardless of her. I know it's hard, but how sad for her that she even needs to steal your thunder. I feel sorry for her, because she clearly is jealous of you if she needs to try to overshadow your accomplishments. So, secretly, take solice in that!

We'll be here for you, we don't even know her...yay!!! Concentrate on you, because if you worry about her, you won't focus on your prize!!

I think it is natural for there to be some competition between sisters - you just need to try and be happy for you and for your sister and not compare yourselves. It is great that you are both so motivated but really it should be about being healthy - eating healthily, exercising - not losing huge amounts of weight. That isn't healthy and if you go down that route you may soon be competing to see who can put back on the weight fastest.

Have you spoken with her about this? When I say spoken thats what I mean, not rowing. I have a sister 18 months younger and I know how easy it is to fall into a row. You need to try not to rise to each other and to have a calm honest conversation about this. Maybe she sees it differently - maybe she has been planning to get fit and thinks you jumped in there first, even though you don't have her health issues. Personally I found I have only been successful in losing weight when I combined with my sister and we lost weight together - why not try that? She could come to your church or you could share the cost of the personal trainer.

I was wondering, why do you say the pastor's wife has 'done well in her dieting' if she doesn't need to lose weight? Surely doing well in dieting involves losing some weight. A person who is thin anyway has a faster metabolism and it is easier for them to maintain their weight.

I don't want to get into a peeing contest with you liz, but I disagree with the statement about thin people. I think it's a very general statement. People who look at me, may think i'm thin, but to me i'm not. And, no, I don't always find it easy to maintain and no, my metabolism isn't neccessarily faster. I go to great lengths to stay healthy and make good choices and work my tushie off at the gym. So, I have to disagree with you...sorry.

I was referring to people who have always been thin and have never had a problem with being fat, rather than those who have previously been fat and lost weight, who may have to fight harder to maintain weight especially since they may as you say have a problem with still feeling like a fat person.

I think you should be flattered that she is taking YOUR LEAD. Maybe your determination to get healthier is making her think about her own health.

Being think doesn't mean your healthy or in shape. Ask my skinny mom who has to work out and get in shape a month before going on a scuba trip just so she can lug around her equipment.

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I have 4 sisters, with only 7 years and 5 days between the oldest and the youngest, and at every major family function (weddings, etc.) they want a Sister's Photo... for the sole purpose of documenting who is the fattest and who is the skinniest... they've been playing this competitive game for oh, at least 20 years, with 3 in hot competion for that skinniest title. The two of us who get pegged for the fattest title don't like it... the other fat sister flat out REFUSES to be the fattest, even if she is.

I don't care for the sister games, but at the same time, I know the BEST way to help my sister and encourage her to lose weight is to lose weight myself. No matter what I weigh, she just has to weigh less... some people are just wired for competition.

Good luck with your sister. I know it's an odd thing, wanting both to stand apart and be recognized for your own achievement without a sister riding shotgun, but at the same time, sisters are forever linked.

I don't have a problem with her wanting to lose weight its the jealousy thing. whenever she sees someone getting more attention or praise than her she will try anything she can to bring you down. Then if she doesn't she goes into this sad act of how she was so mistreated when she was a child. She has the middle child syndrome.