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Miscarriage or spontaneous abortion is the natural or accidental termination of a pregnancy at a stage where the embryo or the fetus is incapable of surviving, generally defined at...

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Observing all of these women that have no desire for pregnancy, or have made no particular heartfelt attempt to conceive, walk around with full pregnant bellies is really difficult. My cousin is 16 and she is in the middle of an unwanted pregnancy. She tells us she only had sex a few times. And used condomns. And lubricant. And they tried to time it a few days after her period. Come on!!! And here I am buying fertility monitors, sperm-friendly lubricants, taking all sorts of vitamins, watching my cervical mucus, abstaining near ovulation, and still having a miscarriage when all of the planetary alignments finally allowed me to conceive! This is insane! Then there she is, desperately wanting to switch pregnancy places with me, no money, no husband, and now not much of a childhood. Doesn't it seem some women can just look at a guy and get pregnant? Why am I not one of them? Why does that trait have nothing to do with how badly you want or don't want a baby?!? Do you think if we took up a petition to change things, God would listen?
Posted on 08/13/07, 08:08 pm
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Reply #1 - 08/13/07  8:12pm
" I don't know why things are the way they are and there is a reason i don't know what it is i wish i did. I hate to see teen pregnancy they have no business being preg in the first place. Obviously no academics after school. they are babies themselves. "
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Reply #2 - 08/13/07  9:12pm
" I agree. Then, you watch the news and there are all of those horrible people who abuse and even kill their children! Ahhh! It frustrates me to no end! I have a friend who said, "I am going to have another child" and... bam! one night of sex got her pregnant. It was that easy for her! I really get where you are coming from. "
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Reply #3 - 08/13/07  10:23pm
" sister you got it down! i wish i had answers...i think this world is awfully harsh sometimes. i wish i could look at my husband and poof have a healthy full term pregnancy...but not me...it has to be heart wrenching and difficult...sigh... "
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Reply #4 - 08/14/07  4:31am
" Even before i had my angels, i would look at some women and go, why are you a mother you don't deserve the right, and it kills me even more now that i have two angel babies, i know a lady that has had 10 babies and she doesn't have any of them because as soon as they are born she has either dumped them or they get taken off her because she is a drug addict and an alcoholic, and yet none of her babies past. her pregnancies are full of drinking and smoking god knows what and yet nothing happens to her or the children and bang she pops out one and is pregnant again, no worries no troubles. It makes me so mad, i reckon there should be some sort of test a women has to take and if you don't pass it you can not have children and all us wonderful mothers could have our children with us instead of having angels "
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Reply #5 - 08/14/07  6:11am
" You have summed up what I am guessing a lot of us are often thinking. I believe that you should have to pass a test first, then God says, OK, here is your baby. Let me know when u get that petition happening, I want my name at the top! "
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Reply #6 - 08/14/07  6:46am
" Please don't bash teen mothers. That is unfair to those of us who walked that path.

It is hard to see those mothers who really don't want there children but keep popping them out. It is hard to want a baby so badly that it is a physical thing not just a want. I hope that someday you get that baby. I know that when it happens that precious little one will be loved with no end. "
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Reply #7 - 08/14/07  10:42pm
" MamaDoom, I didn't mean to bash teen mothers. I feel terrible for my cousin. She is going through some very difficult things. I love her dearly and want nothing but happiness for her. And she wants nothing but happiness for me, too. We have a very special connection, and I will be there with her every step of the way. But I do envy her. And many other women that achieve motherhood so easily. Envy is a sin, and I realize that, but that's my problem to get over, and not hers. It's just not fair. "
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Reply #8 - 08/14/07  11:49pm
" i agree my cousin had a 4mo. baby and guess what she's 3mo. preg don't you love it. oh by way both unplanned "
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Reply #9 - 08/15/07  8:14pm
" I know there is no substitute, but if she doesn't want her child why don't you adopt him/her? "
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