Miscarriage Support Group

No matter what age, experiencing a miscarriage is a very difficult experience. I think that all of your feelings are normal - it's grief working it's way through you. With that said, the decision to get pregnant should be well thought through and if your boyfriend is not ready to be a dad, please do not force it. Take some time to heal and to take care of yourself. Good luck.

Thank you for your reply. I know we are both not ready and I am not trying to get pregnant but i hope that i will. It happenend before and sometimes when i'm just thinking i hope it will happen again.

I am always careful with sex and i'm not going to start tryin for a baby. My best friend is 4 months pregnant and she told me yesterday that she is having a boy. And My ex best friend (we had a huge falling out when we were still at school) has just has a baby girl. It gets me so down.

I do want to get rid of these feelings because I have a good few years yet before i will even consider being ready for a baby x

I am also sorry for your loss. Age doesn't matter here. A miscarriage is traumatic no matter how young you are. My guess is part of your desire for a baby is a reaction to the grief from the miscarriage. I was the same way. I desperately wanted a baby in order to heal from the pain of the miscarriage. I really wouldn't try again until both you and your boyfriend are ready. 18 is still a little young to be a mother. You'll have plenty of time in the future to be a mother (when you are really ready). Trust me, getting pregnant again does not heal the wound of the miscarriage.

If I were you, or sorry I can not be you,,, well, at my 18 age was not so matured, I knew what I was and I could not have a boyfriend, so I was a virgine. I knew that having sex is for having a baby. As you knew that, too. So now you learned by your heart and you have a chance to grow up. The first embryo came to you to tell you to grow up. Swear of it, you won't have sex with a partner for just FUN. You should take your responsibility, I am sorry to say that cruel. BUT one thing, you feel it mistake or wrong. SO you can learn from your mistake and you can try not to make same mistake. It is really sorry about unexpected moment you have.

18 is very young to be a mother nowaday, especially.

Stop being miserable by yourself, YOU just swear and trust by yourself, YOU swear of when you are ready, you will be a great mother!!

Try Hard!! Cheer Up!!

You are not alone.

Thanks for your support but turtleway I enjoy sex, its not just about having a child its about love and closeness with your partner.

I'm not going to stop having sex, I did nothing wrong I was careful everytime. I'm not some 18 year old who had a one night stand and did not use protection. I am 18 and in a stable relationship and very careful. A few months ago the condom split and i spent 20 pounds on the morning after pill.

Sorry but i just felt a little hurt by what you said. What mistake did I make? x

i cant imagine being 18 and going through all of this. i am so here for you. i think when you find out your pregnant, even if you arent prepared, and then yo ulose the baby, it makes you realize that maybe you could handle it, maybe you do want to be a mom. i had ababy at 22 and i wish i could have waited. he is the joy of my life and sooooo wonderful, but it really forces you to grwo up. it makes dating hard, life hard, finaces are hard, it just isnt easy, but again...ITS TOTALLY WORTH IT.

I was in a similar situation when I found out I was pregnant. I have also gone through the emotion of wanting a child too although I know nothing will replace my first unborn child.

I know your body is aching for a child and I'm sure you are emotionally too. All I can say is you're still very young and it won't replace the baby you lost but these feelings are perfectly natural.

If you want to talk I am available. Please don't feel alone.

I am sorry for your loss! it is natural for you to now WANT another baby - but like you said you are only 18 - you have your whole life ahead of you! Mourn the loss of you baby yes, but don't try to replace the sadness with another baby.
Try and stay away from sex too - I know it may sound crazy, but every time you have sex you are taking a chance of getting pregnant. Sex is a wonderful thing, but you want to be sure you are ready for ALL the possible consequences of it before you have it again.

Take the time for yourself to love your self and to miss your baby. It won't be easy but with time you will heal

Wow, thanks guys for your support. At least I know its not weird to want a baby now. I don't want to scare my partner into thinking I want to try for a baby or anything because i don't. So I can't talk to him about this, hence why i came on here. I just want to get over this.

Wish it was that easy x

I've been reading the replies for awhile now, and really wasn't sure until now what I wanted to say. First let me say that I am very sorry that you had to experience this. You are not alone, here and this is a safe place to really talk about how you feel. It is a horrible thing, I'm nearing 30, and I can't imagine being a decade younger and going through all this.
At 18, I look back and consider myself a child at knowing what life's lessons were. Don't get me wrong, I was also very much a grown up and got married at 19, so let me say, I know how grown up you can feel, but listen to the experienced women on this site who have gone thru it all so you don't have to.
Second sex is a beautiful thing to share with someone you love, seems like you've got that down and are being very responsible about it, you said yourself that you're only 18 and not ready for a child yet. Hold onto that thought. It's ok to miss and want to hold your baby in your arms. You lost something precious and that pain an longing will never go away. It's ok to feel the pain and loss from that and want it to go away, but if you were to have another, that pain would still be there, and you will have to grow into maturity raising a child, which is possible, but difficult. A lot of mother's are even younger than you, but take it as a second chance to keep going with your life, and start a family when you know you are ready and you will never regret that decision.
Good luck and you are in my thoughts.