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I just want to tell everyone that we had a memorial service for our son David today in the chapel of our church (it's cozier than the larger sanctuary. It was short but beautiful with prayers, poems and readings from the Bible. Even if you are not religious, I highly recommend having some sort of service... it validates your child's life and it was very cathartic for us. My mother in law who lost a baby 40 years ago wept through much of the service-- it brought back a lot for her even though she has 7 children. It was sad, but I am hoping it will give us some closure as we move on to hopefully a new pregnancy soon.
Posted on 02/17/08, 06:02 pm
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Reply #1 - 02/17/08  8:51pm
" Oh honey, that must have been so difficult for you but I'm glad that it also brought a small sense if peace to you. My prayers are with you! "
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Reply #2 - 02/17/08  8:53pm
" That's a really nice idea. I would be a puddle of tears, as anything at all sentimental these days makes me cry. "
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Reply #3 - 02/17/08  9:14pm
" The memorial service sounded beautiful and I'm sure your angel David loved every minute of it.

We had a memorial service before I left the hospital and it was beautiful. I hope your service will help you heal. "
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Reply #4 - 02/17/08  11:32pm
" The closest I came to a service was one Saturday at work I blew up four white balloons, wrote all of our names on one and a note from just me on another and let them go. I never went to the hospital and there really wasn't anything to bury so it was all I could do. It helped some though. "
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Reply #5 - 02/17/08  11:48pm
" Dear Sadbelly,

We also lost our baby David Angel on January 31st and had the service on the 13th. I agree. We had a very similar service. I'm glad I'm not alone in wanting to validate our baby's life. It felt good to also provide a place for people to offer their condolences and I wouldn't dread talking to people because of having to start up an emotional conversation again and again. Wish you the best and know that you are not alone. We are here with you. "
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Reply #6 - 02/18/08  12:06am
" Good for you and you angel. I did have a memoria lservice for my son Michael whom I lost about 5 months ago I can now say I feel much better. All this time I felt my emotions up/down, but now after the memorial service it was different. I hope and pray that everyday day will be better for you. "
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Reply #7 - 02/18/08  9:48am
" That sounds beautiful. The city where we live has a baby garden at one of the cemetaries which is where our Angelina's remains will be placed with others who were lost. They have a memorial which is said to be beautiful in June, which would have been also when she should have been due. I will think that will be soon enough for me but I too want to validate her life. "
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Reply #8 - 02/18/08  10:51am
" What a beautiful way to honor your son. Wishing you well... "
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Reply #9 - 02/18/08  2:33pm
" I'm really glad that you were able to do that and I can definatly see how that would be healing. I'm having something for my daughter Aiofe on what would have been her due date. It was to much at the time, but I'm looking forwrd to having something in April. Best of luck with your futures pregnacies and bless your baby boy David "
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Reply #10 - 02/18/08  4:55pm
" The service for David sounded beautiful. I am sure your heart was in pain, but I hope it did bring peace too. Thank you for sharing your experience. I wish you more healing and peace...(and the BFP your hoping for) :) "
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