Miscarriage Support Group

I think this is a very personal decision, not to be judged by anyone else.

If you have a strong belief in God and His word, the Bible is very clear that we are not to cut or tattoo our bodies in memory of the dead. A tattoo in memoriam is not something I would do, for multiple reasons, however, I absolutely understand why many people do.

One of my closest friends' baby died 3 weeks after he was born and she had his footprints tattooed with a poem into her back. It's all in black and is beautiful.

I have been seriously considering getting one. The image of an angel cradling a baby in her arms... I've even considered having some of my more artistically inclined friends design one for me personally. Personally, I didn't want to rush into something permanent that might only depress me years from now... But until I've made up my mind, I've found comfort in a miscarriage remembrance bracelet I found at http://www.myforeverchild.com. It lets me memorialize my Baby without the permanent visible mark... I'm not sure I'd want the questions associated with such a tattoo. However, I'm still looking for images for inspiration, and considering having a friend design my tattoo... And if I find the perfect image and the perfect location, you can bet the farm I'll be getting it! :o) I think it's a lovely way to memorialize your baby, just not something to rush into. Best of luck with making the decision!

I think this is a wonderful idea. If I had the guts to do it, I probably would. I have had 2 miscarriages in less than a year and I don't know if I could begin to come up with a design to commemorate my lost babies...I love the thought of it though. Also really like the idea of a bracelet. I will be checking out that web site for sure.

I have always thought this was a good idea. I tried to do it...I got scared and ran away. I have a tiny pink dot on my ankle now. Lol.

I think that when I get older, after I've already had other children that I want to, I will get a tattoo representing each of them. I thought it would be cute if I got a strand of ivy tattooed on my ankle with each of my children's initials and dob in each leaf. My angel would be included.

That's something I never thought of at the time. I don't think I could do it now. I have two necklaces (see my journal) and that works for me. If I could turn back the clock, though, I think I might do it.

Oh, just wanted to add this idea as well- a good friend of mine had a stillborn a while back and she and her husband got matching tattoos honoring their baby. They did it when they got the ashes back and put a small amount of the ashes into the ink. So in a way, they literally are carrying their baby with them always. Some people were kind of freaked out at the idea- I thought it was beautiful.

I got a tattoo in rememberance of my daughter. At her service we had some beautiful flower arrangments made for her and the pink tiger lily's lasted much longer than the rest of the flowers. It made me think that she really would've liked those because of how well they did. So for a long time every time I saw that flower I would think of her. In Jan. I got a pink tiger lily on my right wrist with leaves that wrap around, and over my pulse I got a small set of footprints to represent how she will forever be in my heart. So when people look at it, it just looks like a pretty tattoo and I dont constantly have people asking me what the meaning of it is. It's my first tattoo and I love it.

funny, i have an appointment today in an hour for my tattoo. after reading these comments i'm not sure what i want to get now. i was going to get angel wings with Troy in the middle and the date he was born and died underneath that....i like the star idea alot!!! i think i might use that....thanks

Even though I already had 2 tatoos, after my first miscarriage I went for another tatoo (3rd one). I got a beautiful tatoo of a fairy. I wanted something that would be painful and beautiful all wrapped up into one. I actually intend to go again to commemerate the 2nd miscarriage by getting a small dragon fly next to the fairy. I want to obtain the feeling of something mythical and magical. It definitely IS a personal choice. Tatoos are permanent and some people regret them afterwards. After getting my last one, I felt so much better having it for some reason. I can't explain it. It was just something I felt I had to do and wanted to do it and I'm glad I did.

I am thinking about getting a tatoo, maybe around the due date, which is late May. I'm not sure what yet, something on my ankle though. I was actually thinking about getting a tatoo of the small bear that was in the basket with him when we saw him.