Miscarriage Support Group

You shouldnt be afraid to have a relationship for fear of sex. If you have made up your mind that you will not have sex in your relationship until a certain time then stand by it! Let the man you are involved with know and dont be moved at the same time dont lead on to it either stand firm on your decision. I am sorry for your loss

I don't think that you should feel that way at all. My advice is that if you want to have sex again, use protection. This way you don't have to worry about pregnancy either way -- unless you want one. But don't blame yourself for the miscarriage. Honestly, it is almost never the mother's fault and more often involves things you can't control (genetic problems with the embryo or improper implantation of the egg).

I got pregnant when I was 17 one of the first times I ever had sex. I was so stressed out---I mean so STRESSED out I did not want to be pregnant, I thought my life was over etc---my DD was born with no problems. Then I got pregnant again(planned) when I was 33 I was so happy and that was the pregnancy that I miscarried. My point---you did nothing to cause your miscarriage. Miscarriages just happen---most of the time with no rhyme or reason. I know how hard it must be for you right now. I know after I had my DD I was scared to death every month that I was pregnant again---even if I did not have sex and I was on the pill. Give yourself some time. Make sure that you are on some sort of birth control (provided that you don't want to get pregnant right now) and enjoy the rest of your teenage years. Good luck!

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Just remember that you did nothing to cause the miscarriage...sometimes they happen, and it's heartbreaking. I felt so guilty after mine...I remember the horrible morning sickness I had, and thinking how I'd wish it would just be over (the sickness I mean). Not long after, it went away and boy was I relieved!! I didn't even know that when it went away, that was around the time my baby stopped growing. I found out 3 weeks later that it had died, and all I could think about was my selfish thoughts during my morning sickness. I know it was nothing I did, but it's hard to not blame yourself. You think back to all that you did, said, or thought and you can't help but wonder those two words that mean so much..."if only...". I'm also afraid of getting pregnant again. I was so hopeful at first...I had a D&C last week since I didn't miscarry naturally but then I found out they didn't get it all and now I have another D&C today. It just makes me wonder why God is doing this. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. You'll find a lot of support here, the women are great and they truly know what you're feeling. I'm here if you ever need to talk. Hugs to you!!

shhh babe, just slow down and take a deep breath. everything will be okay again one day. don't avoid guys because of your fear but once your ready for another reltionship you will know, there is no need to feel guilty or rushed. focus on healing your pain and looking towards the future.

I agree. Your focus right now needs to be on you and allowing yourself to heal. You didn't do anything to cause your miscarriage so please don't blame yourself. When you're ready to enter into a relationship you will know and you will know what steps are needed to take. Hang in there, sweetie!

Please don't feel ike you did anything wrong! Most miscarriages happen for no explainable reason. I have seen so many stressed and even angry women who want to get rid of the baby, have perfectly healthy and normal children. On the other hand, miscarriages occur to women like me who are extremely healthy and are happy about their pregnancy! So don't carry a burden that is not yours.

Maybe you just need to give yourself time and space before you start dating. Until you have healed emotionally, everytime you have sex you will be hurting and in fear. You are human, and a miscarriage is a traumatizing experience, its normal to feel afraid.