Miscarriage Support Group

I also didn't have anyone visit after my m/c. My own mother is in denial and now says that it never happened. My aunt and cousin told me to "just get over it" and they are now uncomfortable with talking to me. I also expect no presents or even a "happy mothers day" on Sunday and I also don't think that's right. We should still be treated like every other mother in the world. I miss my baby and yes, I am also royally pissed off that this had to happen to me also. I am right there with you in this! Hang in there my dear! =)

I am so sorry hun. I have found that a lot of people do not understand the pain and trauma of a miscarriage. I had my husband there for me, but beyond him, it was hard to find anyone who truly understood. For example, my mother-in-law didn't even acknowledge that it had happened -- even when I visited her family less than two weeks after it happened. She never once asked me how I was doing.

Mother's day is the main reason i joined this group. It is an especially hard time for me. All holidays are hard but I don't have any other children and no one acknowledges that i am a mother. I agree with jessie86. We should still be treated like mothers. No matter how long or short we had our babies. just know that on mother's day we are all feeling the anger right with you.

I also joined this group because of the upcoming holiday. I just suffered my 3rd m/c a few weeks ago and I am still raw and numb inside. I feel like no one understands. I am glad I found this site and now have a form of support.

I share your pain, Heatherlyn. I just received the news yesterday that my 8 week pregnancy is not "viable" and that my baby has stopped developing. I am devastated. I was offered a D&C. I haven't seen my partner since we got the news. I feel so alone and don't know what to do.

Ladies I want to wish you all a Happy Mothers Day from the bottom of my heart. You are all so brave & strong.It's funny how people whi are mean't to care just act like nothing has happened. I suffered 3 miscarriges & 1 ectopic. My Mother (who was lucky to have four healthy kids) also told me that I needed to get over it and move on....but how do you? I don't think that these feelings ever go away. My partner & I have finally decided to try again...but I don't know how to get rid of the fear I have of something going wrong...

Yes, honey, I too am dreading tomorrow. I have had four healthy pregnancies prior to losing my Angel and I can honestly say that until her, I never fully understood what it means to lose a piece of me. I have been through a divorce and a break-up and while both have hurt like hell, they in no way compare to the pain I felt when I stood in my shower and held my tiny baby in the palm of my hand. I didn't really have any visitors either--my mom came and did what she could. Angel was her second grandchild that to be given angel wings. My sister likewise did what she could--she miscarried three years ago this month (the 18th). Though my dad didn't say much, the hurt in his eyes spoke volumes. My 6-year-old nephew gave me extra big hugs. After all it was his little brother that was given angel wings too. The people who have stood by me, though we were unable to be together in a physical sense, made themselves available even if it was no more than a phone call or an e-mail. The rest of the world, besides telling me all the typical things you hear when something like this happens, treats me as though I am a leper, like somehow something is going to rub off on them if they're near me. And Angel's father? Not going there! Angel will be gone now five months the 21st. I am not over now and I will never be over it. I cannot begin to imagine tomorrow without her. That probably does not seem right to say because of my other children but I guess you can liken it to putting a puzzle together and you get it near its completion only to find a piece is missing. You search and you look and that piece is gone. So the puzzle remains incomplete regardless of all the other pieces. That's the way I'm feeling right now.

My hubby went manic after our last m/c. He wasn't even on the same planet it seemed like. I was left alone with all the pain and then to top it off I had to run a household that was falling apart. I never did really get the chance to grieve for that baby properly. That's most likely the reason I can't seem to move on even after a year.

This site has been an incredible help with that feeling that no one understands. I'm 20 years old and in college, and most of my friends are more concerned about what boy asked what girl out or who got drunk and did whatever the night before. None of the people I'm close to have even the slightest clue, and it's awkward to talk to them because neither of us really know what to say.
And the father of my child pretends that I don't exist, despite the fact that we run in the same circles and see each other on a regular basis--with his new girlfriend.
I feel like there's a hole right through the center of my chest, and I have no idea how to fill it. It would have been difficult, it would have been really, really, hard, but losing my unplanned miracle baby has absolutely crushed me.

Sorry--this is my own rant--just wanted to share to assure you that you aren't alone.
Hugs.

so sorry to hear of ur loss.i too was all alone.id been with my ex partner 3 years when i mc.he was violent and didnt really show much interest when i found out i was pregnant or when i lost my baby.my mom was with me for a little while after both my ops however the person who at the time i really needed with me,wasnt there.i was in and out of hosp for between 3-4 weeks so i had a lot of time to think wat ifs.....and to be honest it completely screwed me up.iv now met someone new and even though it wasnt his baby,i really couldnt ask for neone more understanding.all i can say to u really is plz dont think that u have to tackle it alone.try and talk to either someone u love and trust or a proffesional.i just wish that i could have talked sooner.my thoughts r with u and if u need to talk by all means send me a msg.