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6month Boot camp and coping
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Its still a bit of a ways off but my husband is sceduled to go to boot camp in may. He is in the National Gaurd and is likely to go full time when he comes home. He goes to drill in the mean time and I find it very hard. Having that lack of ability to talk to my soul mate at a moment of what seems like crisis to me is nearly unbearable. Even when not in a crisis just the idea I cant call him causes me distress even if I wouldnt call him anyway.
How do you partners of military people survive? I have Bipolar and BPD and I am sure it has a lot to do with the anxiety I suffer from. WHat other support systems did you have in place to help you get throught the times your loved one is away? Or do you just hold on and hope and wait? I know that when he goes he wont be in danger, so I am not afraid for his safty but he is my backbone and he keeps me grounded. ANd thats going to go away. Even his short weekends cause me great distress I cant imagine surviving 6 months.... any ideas to learn to cope with this feeling much welcome.... please..... Posted on 11/18/07, 01:11 pm |
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definately get support here. and dont be afraid to cry every now and then. reach out to family and friends. i coped while my boyfriend was at boot camp by praying and hopeing and waiting. he is still gone at his AIT job training thing but all together from the time he left to the time he will get back is about 5 months. yes it is hard. but u can get through this. write lots of letters and send him lots of pictures (send them on regular computer paper so the drill sargents cant feel that there is something in the envelpoe. that way he wont have to do A MILLION pushups for them. lol. u learn how to be sneaky too. haha) dont worry. you will get through all this. btw: mine joined the national guard too. drill weekends stink too! lol but we have to love our army guys right? lol. well i will talk to you later. hope i helped a little bit.
-Britt 
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Hang in there hon!! I went through the same thing you're going through. We had actually been unseperable for 11 years. He worked, I stayed at home with our daughter. He joined the military at age 30!! For 10+ years he's supported me in every single way! Now all of a sudden I find myself behind the wheel, making sure ends meet. At first it was sooooo overwhelming (that's an understatement)!! But as days and weeks went on it got just a little bit easier. He has just under 3 weeks left till he's done with school, and gets to come home!! The one thing that takes a toll on me, is the stress. My head, neck, and back hurt everyday. It sucks lol
The time really does fly by! Before you know it, he'll be home in your arms again!! Best of luck to ya...Try and keep your mind, and yourself occupied. Write letters every single day..send lots of pictures!
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I can completely relate. I have not seen my fiance for almost 10 months now due to injuries in basic. When I learned I would not be able to talk to him for 9 weeks I did not know how I would do it. I suffered from and eating disorder and other issues for awhile and I was so worried I would fall back into it. What works for me is to write lots of letters, send pictures and keep BUSY! I will not lie, it will hurt like hell at times. I journal to get all the emotions out too. When you want so desperately to talk to your husband...write a letter to him, or journal and just get those feelings and emotions out..don't bottle them up! I also keep remembering that we will be together again and envision that day..and it brings a smile to my face! You know what they say...Distance makes the heart grow fonder! Hang in there and keep reaching out for support!
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