Methamphetamine (also referred to as methylamphetamine or desoxyephedrine) is a synthetic stimulant drug used for both medicinal and recreational purposes (see Legal issues). Metha...
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what weighs more addiction or an affair?
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Hi everyone and anyone who reads this and comments. I am sure a few of you have seen my profile and know I am up against a husband that has an addiction to meth and also his girlfriend is a user as well. He stays with her a few days comes back home a few days and although I am tired of it I have still allowed it. But I am at my wits end.
Right now it bothers me that he has someone else not that she is better then me she's not. She feeds his addiction (I know I enable his addiction) but lets put that aside for now. My question is if you were me what would bother you more? That he uses drugs or that he has another women? The infedelity thing is bothering me more right now even though I know he is with her because they party together and have fun if that's what they call it but I also know they fight and I mean fight. She gave him a black eye once LOL not funny I know but I have to laugh at times because I am tired of always crying about this. He through a burrito once all over her moms car it took 3 cleanings to get it all. Our fights were never that physical. So right now it's her week for him to be there. She must have money and feeding his addiction. I just want to try and figure out why my marriage ended was it for her or for the addiction or do they go hand in hand? Just something I wanted to throw out there. A lot of post here are just about the H/W cheating but I am hit with two things and does either one weigh more then the other...... thanks to those of you who reply.. Posted on 06/15/08, 11:06 pm Posted on 06/15/08, 11:06 pm |
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I think that both are reasons to let him go. I cant really talk I am a meth addict, was recovering but a few days ago I bought some adderol and im on the track to ruin my life once again. I wish I could help you, but my advice is that he will keep coming back if you dont put a stop to it. 
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ok coming from someone who spent 15 years.. in love with meth... been clean for 3 years now...
you need to let him go...for both reasons as ttaarraa.. also mentioned. I realize you may love the guy... but you need to put yourself first here. because you can trust that he is only putting himself first.. the girlfriend... i can't even believe you are putting up with that.. its one thing to put up with the addiction.. its another to ask you to put up with both... I can only ask you... what is he doing for you.. that allows you to turn a blind eye to all of this... and another.. coming from a meth addict herself... when you're on meth.. you're only in love with one thing.. and its not you or the girlfriend... its meth.. and he isn't going to make anything better until he is forced to.. let the girlfriend have him full time... its worth the risk.. and you will see how fast everything changes... with there merry happy times... two meth heads in one house... nothin but craziness..and unless you the cookin the stuff up and dealing it... not too many can afford it... let alone live together...while trying to feed both addictions... give them what they want... each other... and their addictions...by allowing him to come back.. each week.. you are just prolonging their relationship...kick him to the curb.. with clear demands... on him ever wanting another chance at your relationship... no meth... no girlfriend... You owe that to yourself..
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One is a disease, and the other isn't unless you are a sex addict. They both can kill you. If I cheated on my wife she would leave me then I would probably lose my sobriety because of it.
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What's the difference... his affair is with either and which ever is convenient. An "affair" is anything that defocuses one from their spouse (or even life).
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women come. women go. addictions are forever. the drugs are worse.
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To let go and let God .... Be true to yourself- that is what you can do. Life is too valuable and in your heart you may already know the truth, it is by taking action that the road you cross is the right path.... good luck to you honey and take care
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I would strongly recommend some counciling or some alanon meetings. It was both issues that ended you're marraige.
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It is like comparing apples with oranges. If you want to kiss your marriage, girlfriend goodbye then have an affair. It is a sure fire way to destroy a relationship.
Say not to state the obvious, are you clean at all?
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I really hate to tell you this but if he is sleeping with a dope phene and coming home to you and crawling in bed then your sleeping with all of her past present partners so the truth is you are living a dangerous life and I would boot his but out and never look back.I know its hard on most women because of children and funds but not only is he an unfaithful drug addict he is also laughing in your face and has a very sick train of thought .Sorry if I hurt you but you must know the reality of the situation and start some change planning.Deral
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