Menopause Support Group

Diffucult Question? But I would hope that my employer may it be a man or women, hopefully will know what us older women go thru, If not then I would sit my Boss down & try to explain what goes on with a women that is going thru Menopause, It's very hard to accept, but It's reality honey. That is just my opion, Okay?

I am going through perimenopause right now and having a hard time with it. I have not been to work for 2 weeks now. I am going to have to speak with my boss next week to see how I can some how mange through the day.This should be treated as an illness because you just can feel so bad physically and emotionally. My first step is going to shorten my work hours and I hope I can be given less stressful things to do at the office.

I haven't been to work since oct. I thought it was depression because i take medicane for that but it was difrent no energy at all I always want to lay down. I started the sweats just alittle bit. At first I thought i was having a nervous break down. Boy does your body go throuth so many things. This stinks, but I guess everyone goes through it diferently.

Thank you for your genuine interest and understanding about this unique time in a woman's life. As an employer experiencing many of the 35 identified symptons of menopause, I know how difficult it is to keep on track with work related tasks, not to mention all other aspects of a normal life.

At this time in life, women go through a hormonal change similar to the hormonal fluxuations experienced at adolocence. Do you remember your parent(s) or you as a parent asking your preteen/teen ... "What is wrong with you?" Kinda the same thing.

The more I experience, the more I realize that all women should make life plans to deal with this transition. Yes, a few fortunate gals among us don't have troubles at all..

A great book, that helped me understand is by Dr. Christiane Northrup "The Wisom of Menopause". Lots of useful information and permission to take time for ME. We are no longer needed to be pro-creaters or caretakers of others..it is time to take care of ourselves. If that requires a change of scene, a change of routine, a change in a relationship...so be it!

It is okay to ask for compassion and empathy from those around you. Ask your employer to reorganize a few tasks to fit your abilities at this time of transion. Schedule your vaction time to extend a few weekends a month, and take that time to schedule extra special time for YOU. (Something to look forward to during "dark" times.)

Daily exercise, good nutrition, supplement of depleted nutrients in our bodies and stress reduction are all important to try to normalize.

Accept the fact that things will never be the same. But, there is a light before us...a time of greatness. Each of us has the ability to make our life what we want it to be. This time is is just another bump in the road of life. We will persevere.

Thanks for your post. Perhaps you have a bit more insight now, and an understanding of what you have to look forward to, sister.

My sincere best wishes to all. CMP

The first thing you should do is give this lady a huge hug and reassure her that you understand what she is going thro ! I wish you were my boss... I was a Registrar ( births deaths and marriages ) for almost 20yrs.. and I started to make mistakes, all be it small ones, but enough for my new boss to give me a hard time about it. I knew I was perimeno, but I thought I was coping quite well....Until I was put under enormous pressure, then bang I went to pieces, I was off work 2mths with stress/depression/panic attacks... that was 9mths ago... I resigned from my job before she pushed me, I was so hard on myself, please dont let this happen to this lady.. it's not her fault, sit down and talk to her, read some of the other posts in this website and hopefully you will understand what's happening...

Olivia

it is very difficult waking up each morning knowing you don't feel good and you have to leave your safe place where you know that if you need to scream, cry or even just fall asleep you can. i have been going through perimenopause for about 6mo. and to top it off i have a new Terminal Manager whom just does not have a heart at all. i was in the hospital with irregular heart beats and all he asked was when i was coming back. i was in the hospital the following mo. with the same thing and he asked for a dr. note and treated me like crap for 2 weeks after. he got so bad i had to go to the corp. office. i cried everyday and justed wanted to quit but knew i couldn't since i hold the insurance in the family. now last week i finally had a period an was bleeding like a cow had a migrane and just couldn't get out of bed i told him i wasn't feeling well then the 3rd day i came out and told him the truth he sounded understanding but then 1 hr. later he called me back and said he needed a dr. note from me. i couldn't believe it i asked him if he was serious if he really wanted me to go to the dr. and say i was on my per. and i needed an excuse to go back to work. during this time i am so weak and emotional all i do is cry and i fill so full of anger and hate but when i go back to my normal emotional state i feel so dumb for letting this idiot get to me. anyways it is hard and exspecialy when you need to work you feel trapped. i am not one of the lucky ones that can just stay at home i need two incomes in my home to keep things going. Good Luck. have her find a church and tell her about this site it is great!