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I can relate....I had to do a whole lot of soul searching about this too. regardless of his decision, do what you feel is right for you....you have your own mind and free will. ...good luck with your decision...you can do anything you set your heart on. Yes you can!!

Preppymom
1 whole day pot free and feeling fine.....

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have been clean for over 5 months now and my husband continues to smoke. It was SUPER hard in the begining but not so much any more. I have begun to find myself and the things that make me truly happy. I've been going to treatment and that helps too. It's hard that my husband and I don't have that in common any more but I feel so good about myself nothing could compare. If you feel strongly about quitting you should do it. This decision is for YOU and women often forget about themselves. Do what makes your soul happy. It's worth it. Trust me.

If your partner has no intention of stopping thats no reason for you not to.....I'm no doctor and I'm not qualified to give medical advice but from what I've heard a natural tranquilizer can make the first 7 to 10 days more bearable......

Maybe it's not possible for you to quit while he's smoking, it would make it pretty hard for you. I don't really know but I know that nothing changes unless something changes...make a change.

I remember a lot of my using was due to relationships with other addicts. If you can't beat em, join em.

Eventually I was lead away from pot using people, fortunately for my own sobriety :). I just no longer was drawn to potheads, but started seeking out sober potheads.

having my own recovery program and Al Anon helps a lot.

Good luck to you.

www.ma-online.org

is a chatroom and online meeting center for marijuana anonymous, for those with a desire to stop smoking pot.

I had to leave my husband when I got clean and sober and he kept using. Believe me, that was not the only reason I left him...but I can't imagine living with someone on a daily basis that uses when I do not.

Hi Sapphire, just read your last comment and I am trying to understand ... you say..... but I can't imagine living with someone on a daily basis that uses when I do not?

Sapphire and Loved1, In the past when I quit using it put a strain on our relationship. I was hurt that he wouldn't quit, and I began to see his using as a turn off.I became depressed. I felt I had to leave him to stay sober and that's not an option for me. So I began to use again to mend our relationship. It's a vicious cycle I keep repeating. My desire to quit has never left me. It tears me apart. I know if I quit I won't want to be around someone using. I want a sober mate. But he doesn't have any desire to quit. I don't know what to do, get better or stay sick to save my marriage.

April...I am facing the same issues its not easy. He was smoking when we met...it's not like I didn't know what I was dealing with..... Now many ppl have this idea that a "pothead" is somebody who irresponsible and lays around sleeping etc...my husband is anything but, he is a very succesful businessman and he does not abuse the weed, if anything it helps him to be more focused and productive, especially at night as he works on the PC. Don't get me wrong, I don't condone it and would LOVE for him to stop with me, but realistically he has no intention (not now anyway) and I need to come to terms with that if I am to have a long term succesful quit. He also smokes outside and not in front of me as he is 100% behind my quit, and has had to deal with my tears, frustration and condemnation this week...BUT regardless we are in this for the long haul, "for better or worse, in sickness and health" I am trying not to be so judgemental, live and let live etc...he is after all a brilliant husband and father...I'm still dealing with things internally.....I am here if you want to chat xxx

Eventually something will have to budge, I suppose.

We spend so long going against our better instincts because we feel it is the best we can do at the time.