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I'm clean...Spouse is not
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Soooo....I've been clean for 5 months now and I am very happy with it. I feel so much better physically and emotionally. I feel healthy and strong. However, my spouse continues to smoke. He's not in my face or trying to get me to smoke or anything but it's there. He does it. I see his pipe on the dresser. I smell it. I don't crave it anymore. I don't really feel tempted. What I do feel is left out. It used to be our "thing". I was something that we did together and it was sort of bonding. Our relationship is already kind of crappy and this is just one more thing we DON'T have in common anymore. Anybody else going through this - a spouse who still uses? Is it unfair to expect them to stop with you? I ended up quitting after failing a UA at work and being sent to treatment. I did it to save my job and save my family (we need to pay bills and we have kids). I would have quit to support him in the same situation. Am I expecting too much?
Posted on 07/10/08, 02:07 pm |
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i was in the opisite boat than you. i smoked and the wife didnt. I know for sure it use to anoy the crap out of her but as we said in our marige vows- for better for worse in sickness and in health.
now that i dont smoke any more she does enjoy the extra cash we have but i must say our relasionship is still the same. 
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wow, i am in the exact situation. i also am almost five months clean (138 days today). my husband sounds just like yours. he's not in my face either, but like u said, u know it's there...the possibility is always there. it is very hard, and i totally relate to the it being 'your thing' u do together. my hubby and i were same way. it was the only time we really connected. i wish i had some advice for you. all i can say is that i'm right here with you. i go to NA and have been told that hopefully hubby will be inspired by my recovery and wish the same for himself. i really wish he would quit...but i can't make him...and we can't wait for them to join us before we recover ourselves.
it is very hard, but we can do it, and u have done very well so far. keep up the good work. feel free to message me if u want to talk.
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