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I'm having a problem in bed. My partner can't get me to cum. I can cum but she can't get me to, she's only managed to do it twice in the number of times we've made love. She's only been able to get me to cum with my help. I know I can' cum cause I've gotten myself off and she's gotten me to cum with my help but she can't get me to do it alone. We bother knew it was normal for me not to cum my first time and my second even my third but we've been together 10 months and though we've only been together in person (Long Distance Relationship) a few times for a few days we've managed to make love a lot. But in those times she's oly gotten me to cum twice on her own. Is this normal? I'm not too scared cause I think it's just my body needing to get used to her running the show as it were but she's so scared that it's her and that she'll never do it. I try to reassure her but it's doing no good. I believe that she will get me to cum on her own but I mean I'm still a little bit of a virgin, she's my first. I just hate thatt at night rather than holding her and calming from our high and after glow, I'm holding her and she's quiet and upset cause she couldn't get me off and I try and reassure her but it does nothing I think. And later after she's fallen asleep I lay in bed and beat myself up and wonder why the hell I couldn't cum. I've tried everything, we've tried everything. I've tried not trying, I've tried not thinking about it and I've done the opposite. We've tried toys and stimulants. and even extending foreplay...NOTHING. And I do feel amazing things when we make love but very rarely is it orgasm related. I need to figure this out and soon or get some advice or something cause it's starting to make me not want to make love with my partner cause it doesn't end so great. I'm 18 years old and in my prime should this be happen? Is this a sign that maybe we're not meant...god hope not. I just really need some advice or something please, it would be relationship saving.
Thanks Take Care KD Posted on 07/16/08, 05:07 pm |
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I have the same problem with my partner.. I have read that sometimes the best thing it to yake your time and tell your partner what he or she can do for you. Both of you need to relax and understand that YOU know your body and what it wants, you have to teach her to know it. Just give it time and tell her not to get upset. It'll happen, she's just trying too hard and pushing herself too fast. Hope this helps. 
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Oh Darlin'.
You are completely normal and just learning how to use the equipment. It was the same for me and for most women gay or straight I know. Of course you can get yourself off... that's the first thing we lean about sex. the equipment is right there and always ready. Adding another human being is your first step out into the big bed. Take a deep breath and stop playing the blame game. You have nothing to apologise for. Start back at the beginning. Begin to overcome your shyness and masturbate in front of your partner. It's really hot! That way she can see exactly what gets you off. Next time have her put her hand over yours and just feel what you are doing when you get yourself to orgasm. The next time you put your hand over her's while she gets you off. that way your can direct her and increase or decrease pressure etc. You may need to do some of these steps more than once.... poor babies! :) Do the same steps with her... even if she swears you ARE getting her off. It will show you how you can really please her the way SHE wants to be pleased. This is not a race I's a wonderful exploration. Enjoy. It only gets better.
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When it comes to intimacy, everyone is different. Worry less about how you reach the destination and simply relax and enjoy the journey.
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