Infidelity Support Group

Initially it does hurt something awful. It does get better one way or the other. You have start to focus on you and start to do those things that make you happy. You have to live for your daughter.
Save your marriage if you can. Did he confess or did you catch him? Was it with someone you knew? Why did he tell you? Did you see the signs?
It got to the point it affected my health. That is when I knew he was not worth this. The affair was not the first. I could forgive it has just been one time. He has lied and done other things. We are still together but it is not the same for me and will never be the same. I don't hurt anymore but the problem now is I don't feel anything. I could walk in and see him making love and it would not bother me one bit. To be honest I am happier now than I have been in a long time. I feel like a burden has been lifted. I don't wonder what he is doing. I spend a lot of time doing the things I like.

I couldn't move for 3 months. Cried and stayed in bed most of the time. Only got up to feed the kids. My house looked like hell but I didn't care.

10 months later and I'm a new person. My marriage didn't make it but your can.

You have a 4 year old. I pray you can make it. Hugs to you.

Yes,there are many of us here. We've all been in your shoes and had your same feelings. Most of us have gone over to the "Rebuilding Marriage" site.
If you love your H, and want to try saving your marriage. Than NO,don't run away. It's always worth trying! It's a long tough road of up & down emotions. But you can do this,if your both committed to the marriage!

I'm 3 weeks in to finding out about my H's affair.

I'm just taking it one day at a time.

Yes like Vicki said it does get better either way. You will be on a rollercoaster for some time. However, don't let it control your life. Get counseling, it really does help. So sorry for your pain we have all been there. Do some things for yourself and spend time with your daughter. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Hey Kelly, Sorry to hear of your worst nightmare coming true. It's funny, you join this place later hopeing that you will be the last one to ever sign up. But here it goes again. I wish things were better in the world.
The only advice I can give is throw out all the knives. Cause your gonna want cut his "thing" off. LOL OUCH! did I say that.
My wife only had online affairs not physical and I still freak out 8 months later. Not as bad but still. Humor works for me sometimes. You came to the right place though. There are alot of awsome people here to help guide you down this s#!ty road! Sorry again to hear of your pain. Take care and please try to keep your health up through all of this. That is one thing I see alot of here is the toll it takes on your body and sole. Start working out and focus your hate on building a stronger and new you. Just do some videos or walk with your daughter,run if shes got a bike. Stay busy, don't let your depression take you over. A journel might help. Vent in that. I did. Big Huggs GF

goofyfooter. That was wonderful advice. Kelly, I am sorry you are hear also, but this can be a wonderful place.

Honey I won't sugar coat anything...everyone is different.but at the same time this is NEW AND FRESH...... weeks is not enough time to get past something of this nature. BUT you can't let GOD GO...YOU GOTTA KEEP HIM CLOSE CAUSE TRUTH BE TOLD. HE'S THE ONLY ANSWER!!!! EVEN IF YOU DO"T GO TO CHURCH YOU CAN STILL HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM...TALK TO HIM, TELL HIM WHAT YOU DESIRE, AND ASK HIM TO GUIDE YOU THRU THIS. HE ALWAYS ANSWERS ALTHOUGH IT MAY NOT BE WHEN WE WANT HIM TO. MY QUESTION IS..HOW DID YOU FIND OUT/ DID HE JUST COME OUT AND TELL YOU. IF HE DID..THAT COULD REALLY BE THE START OF SOMETHING GOOD....IT TAKES GUSTO TO TELL YOU SOMETHING LIKE THAT NOT KNOWING WHAT THE CONSEQUENCE WILL BE..SO IF HE DID TELL YOU ON HIS OWN. HE'S A HELL OF A MAN AND I WOULD CONSIDER WORKING THINGS OUT.......

The world has gone mad. Nothing is sacred any more. God hasn't abandoned you. He is alway's with you. God will give you no more then you can handle. Although, I think he has his finger on the button sometimes. Sadly, we all know the devastation you are feeling. For your child's sake you must put on a award winning performance. It will get better with time. It will never be the same however. But it doesn't have to be the end to your marriage. Trust, once it's been broken will take a life time of work and dedication on the cheaters part to repair. I found out about my H affair in January, and it is still fresh. I'm still overwhelmed with such grief over the affair. We just celebrated our 17th anniversay, I use celebrated loosely. I will never look or feel the same way about our anniversary again. Yet the bottom line is I still love my h. I beleive everyone deserves a second chance. But this is not baseball. Two strikes and your out. Good luck. I agree with goofy. Get moving. Make the rest of 2008 about you. Take care.

kelly,

i'm so sorry for everything you're going through right now. i've been there - all here have been there - it's rough and it sucks but you WILL get through it. please don't think for one minute that God has abandoned you. you were hand-picked by Him for something wonderful - even when we lose sight of Him, His faith in us never waivers. here's a scripture for you - i hope it uplifts you as it uplifts me.

“Call on Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall honor and glorify Me” (Psalm 50:15)