Infidelity Support Group

I think maybe we can't see the forest for the trees in our own lives, but can look more objectively at someone else's because we're not in it. Likewise others can see options for us that we often can't.

McCuagh is right its easier for someone on the outside to be objective and use our own experiences of what has worked and what hasn't etc.. Also I might add that in our shared pain of betrayal we all have something to contribute that might help someone else even like what I have said knowing the right things to do and doing them in our own life is two entirely different things. But the more we share and communicate with each other it helps everyone in their different different situations and their different phases of recovery. Some have/ or are in counseling and share their experience's and suggestions others have gone through or are going through emotions and thoughts and actions that we can all relate too. Everything I have read, studies and talk to professionals and other people have said that journaling is an important part of the healing and recovery. Just my 2 cents.

Think of it this way...I couldn't see my H for a good person again for a really long time ask Johnna...but everyone else could see how much he was trying and wasn't giving up and it helped to have everyone here reminding me of the things he was doing...tweedsiesman and I are doing really well again and I've been able to start moving past what happened...so much of that I can thank so many people here for just being available and supportive...

Yeah tweedsie, and you two are soo damn cute and sweet to each other I wanna barf.LOL No you know Im just kidding Im really happy to see you guys working so well together! You give me hope and so much more. All my friends here have helped me through some of the most devestaing times in my life. I love you all!

Emotions cloud our perceptions and so we have difficulty in viewing our own situation objectively. When we hear situations that others are in, it is much easier to think rationally about it. That is why it is good to hear from others, but not always easy to listen.

Thank you all so much all great answers.

We've all felt the crushing pain of betrayal. We don't always take the same path. I have learned so much. I have been encouraged when I needed to rant. So I know if someone needs to rant let em....and so on. Just what some very dear people,too many too mention have taught me and keep teaching me. They pulled me thru the darkest period of my life and still do.If I can help someone,Then I feel like I am giving what they taught me in return. :) Lin