Infidelity Support Group

According to the OW she broke things off. According to him he did. Let me think who should I believe. I guess I believe her.

Nave, happpy to see you back more. It really doesn't matter, like the affair they made a choice again to stay (or go). Both the OW with my EH, and current told me it wasn't love. Just for fun, not for anything more. Whatever.

I was the OW. He came over one day and told me it was over. However, I got him back. I called his wife and told her. Even today, I send emails to her telling her what her loving husband did with me. I will be sure that he is never happy with her.

"iwaswrong" I believe this would hurt his wife more than him. If they are still together I am sure she could give a shit less what you say. Anyway, my cheater H ended his affair. The guilt was to much for him and 2 years after the affair ended he told me. It has been a long road, we both have had to determine what it was we wanted in life. The fact that he told me, did not get caught, I would have never known, shows he still has some morals. We stopped working on "us" years prior to the affair.

With the first OW (16 years ago, I found out last year) he says it just petered out, there was never any thought of either of them leaving their mates. Apparently they were just fuck buddies.

The second OW wanted him to leave his family and started getting really nasty about it. He didn't understand why she was bad mouthing his wife and kids. He says he tried to get her to see other people even suggesting guys for her to date. She kept threatening to tell me. In the end he told me and I ended it. It's funny but it just really dawned on me, I thought he was feeling guilty when in fact he probably had no idea how to get rid of her. Nice of me to clean up his mess for him.

Misty33. I know it will hurt his wife, but that means she will be angry with him and I want to hurt him through her. He entered my life and we were great together. Then he went back to his real life with her. I told him that I would call her and I did. He will never be happy with her. I won't let him.

iwaswrong, do you not even consider his wife? Do they have children? Did you know he had a wife to begin with?

If one of my H's OW were to continue to call him or I, I would have her charged with harassment. There is very little chance that she will side with you, if anything it may bring them closer having a common enemy - you.

i was wrong. you are wrong.

Wow gotta respect Iwaswrongs's honesty. She is straight up about her intentions. Makes me wonder why she is here? Perhaps if she would read some of our stories and understand how much pain and destruction is causes for everyone involved (including the OW) then maybe we could help her heal too? Right now she is is the epitome of the OW that we all know and hate. The scorned woman who will do anything to hurt and destroy the man, his wife, and marriage. Hmmm do I hear {Fatal Attraction}?? I would suggest she joing cheaters anonymous for the time being not here.

Iwaswrong:

You're not going to hurt him. IF you DO end up hurting him, it will be because his wife leaves him, and he will be devastated by THAT, not you. In any event, you need to return to your christian vows and stop the nutcase in you from continuing to act out. Yeah, he hurt you, but the bottom line is?

Dont play with married men. Find one that can be all yours and solely yours. You do realize he lied to you and used you to sleep with you, right? Thats on you, and solely on you for allowing him to use you like that. You're not hurting his life and are ultimately going to end up with charges being pressed against you which is going to haunt you for the rest of your life, especially during job searches. Worst yet, his wife just might not be too tolerating and come after you.

In any event, the behind the scene snickering you are doing which is causing you to believe that you will make him miserable is ridiculous. You are probably the tie that binds them right now and for all you know, they might be both laughing at you by now.

And, you said a mouthful by saying he went back to his "real life".Yes, he did. he woke up and went back to his REAL LIFE, no longer choosing to participate in the hurtful, destructive, fantasy land he was carrying on with you. Its time you get OUT of that fantasy land and realize again.....
that married men are OFF LIMITS. I'm pretty sure with you being christian, you read that in the bible somewhere. Or was that the part you decided didn't matter?