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Oh. Ya. I confronted the other woman and she denied, denied, denied. I found them in a restaurant being 'discreet' as my H told me and I was making a scene. The nerve.

I confronted her and she said that it just wasn't like what I thought. LIKE WHAT, I ask? She said that I had it all wrong and they are JUST friends. Um, look girly. The text messages were NOT just friends.........

"......I keep reliving that night over and over and over in my head". PUKE.

Does THAT sound like friends?

Anyway, she begged me NOT to tell her husband, WHICH I didn't for about 4 months but he had already found all the incrminating evidence on her cell phone records. She still denied to him and told him she was just friends with my H.

But 19 months later and guess what? I'm thinking it's MORE than friends. That dipshit sleeze!

Anyway, DON'T let her frazzle you about her hanging up. YOU'VE done nothing wrong. Does your H know you called her? Be prepared if he doesn't because they have a way of making it YOUR fault and he may be pissed. But, again, YOU have done nothing wrong.

HUGS!!!!!

Oh yes....all I got were denial (from both OW & my stbx) The second, "just friend" spoke like that as well...that whole condescending crap! It just shows what TRASH they are. Sorry you are going through it.

The OM in my case did not say anything. He turned bright red. I wanted him to see me and to realize that his behavior was impacting other lives. I also wanted him to realize that a relationship with her is going to complicated. Come to find out she told him we were separated. I am not sure things have stopped but they have certainly slowed down.

When you say he would be pissed off what do you think he would say? I did warn him that I was going to call her.

Does it actually make you feel better to confront the other? I am struggling with that question. Is it worth it? I could destroy his family if I fed his wife some info. I would like to see him squirm a little, but is it short lived joy?

I confronted both OW and I have to say it actually made me feel better, probably helps that I feel like I came out the best in both situations. But one of the OW had made a point of befriending me after the A with my H and I really can't see any reason for that unless she got some secret pleasure out of knowing something I didn't, so it felt good to take that away from her. I also confronted her in a grocery store in front of several people, I know it embarrassed the heck out of her and lots of other people got to find out what kind of person she is. I really enjoyed telling my H about the whole thing too. Am I a B**ch probably but hey its not like she didn't ask for it. Do I regret anything I have said to either of the OW absolutely not, I just wish my H had avoided the whole mess in the first place.

Have I ever called the other girl, other women, other whatever OH YEAH!!! I've learned that I am not the best at picking the right guy. (lesson learned late in life, but at least I learned it IN my life) Well, yes..I have..many times. I've even went right up to them. But the truth be told, the always working ever present "we are not togther" story was use, or I was not mentioned, so they walked. I think I became a pro by age 21..lol. The best way to deal with them (weather they know about you or not) is to MAKE them feel that they are not at fault, that they are a victim too, and you just don't want to deal with this if he is a lying dog. The Second you become territorial, they clam up, never to open (unlike there legs) and if the man is still trying to get with them, then you become the terrible wife/girlfriend he said you were, and it just makes them closer. Only once ever when I called a girl (my now h xgf) Did I not try that approch as much. I knew she is loyal to him, because she will love him forever. (Lucky him..and believe me, the best punishment he could get is to be back with her. Not sure if they slept 2gether, 'but still inappropriate behaviour, and things being said.
I don't care if my H/bf at that time got mad if I called them. They only reason they had to get mad, or prevent me from meeting them was because they have something to hide. I even tell the guy when we first start getting series, if you cheat, or lie to me, I am not afraid to call around, call the girl nothing. If you get mad that is your shit, so think about that before you bring shit in my back yard. Besides, by the time they find out I did, they are in ...what's the longest river in Egypt??.....Oh yeah..
DE-NIEL. Stand your ground, know he is only mad because he got caught and if he IS seeing them you just put a big monkey wrench in his fairytale world, plus the realization that there world is about to fall, brings the anger up more. Besides, her hanging up on you...don't look at it as her being rude, just scard shitless!! and didn't know what to say or do. You have her, she knows it, panick time. Sorry about my post, I'm in abit of a mood tonight!!(Series playful one) Stay strong

I am contemplating calling her I have talked to her once on the phone a few months ago but she wouldnt talk to me. She sent me a text a couple weeks ago that said "You won". I am trying to decide if talking to her will give me the closure I need. I dont know I am not a confrontational person so I dont know maybe all that will happen is it will hurt me more to hear about their "love". I dont know this whole thing is such a mess.

I called the other woman and she just kept repeating this has nothing to do with me you need to talk to my husband she also told me a bunch of lies we have since found out this woman is not only doing this to our family but also many others in there work place so now my husband feels like a dumb ass he he I am glad about that and he now hates her thank god I can not but still feel hurt even I believe everything he is telling me you know that gut feeling but hope you have the opportunity to ruin her life like she has yours good luck I totally believe in carma she will get hers!!!!!

There are some who think it is ethically wrong...to not tell the other cuckhold! In other words, they deserve to know what is going on and how would you feel if they knew and no one told you? Then 6 or 8 months or 4 or 5 years down the road you find out? In the meantime you may have a new and exciting STD,m you might not have gotten or there is a child, borne to them!

My husband's lover denied also. I did not understand why she chose to protect him. Or maybe she was ashamed of herself, who knows. i told her she was a liar and why. She did get upset enough to cry and run out.

There was no boyfriend in that case. Maybe she did not want the neighbors to know?

Tell the other BS if you can.