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Don't do anything for at least one year. Who knows, they could move in a few months.

I understand the feeling of wanting to start fresh somewhere else, but I agree that you should give it more time and discuss the pros and cons a bit more. Are there other reasons to move or other advantages? How much would you miss other things about your town? Try to look more at the big picture.

I found out about my H's affair in January and we moved in March, I think it was the best thing for us to do at the time.

We have a similar dilemma. OM's family are neighbours. Our kids (young adult) are friends. Right now, OM is not living there as he and W split up after dday, but I think they are going to counciling and may reconcile. If they move across the street again both me and H do not want to keep living there. But, we have added difficulties of it being a bad time to sell our place. I keep hoping that OM & W will not work things out but then that seems really selfish of me to not want the best for their family. I care about them (wife & kids...OM made his own bed).
I think that eventually we will move as there are just too many memories that surround the rural area we live.
Witzimmer, how old are your kids? I think the teen years are the toughest for moving. But, your family's health and togetherness is the most important thing.

Our kids are young (8, 5 & 3). I'm tempted to call the bastard and tell him to move. No threats, just demands.

That's right..he is single isn't he? Tell him to move! Or suggest strongly that it would be the right thing to do...
I have thought about moving just to have a completely fresh start... I was thinking something drastic...like out West...but, I have to stay here due to my job...and for now, the fresh start will have to be in my heart and mind...but, I think in your case because of the chance of seeing him etc. if you could live further away it would be better..and your kids are young and resilient ..and the most important thing for them is a happy mom and dad..

I go back and forth every day- the OW lives 4 doors away. her H actually offered me $$ to leave- I wouldn't take their $$ for anything. I want to move but there are other considerations- the market, my 5 year old- my suppport group. Hang tight. RAsh decisions could blow up in your face. The right time will present itself...

wjztrimmer, I think you should tell him to move. Actually my H did tell OM to move...told he should leave town..told him what he thought of him.
Anyway, your kids are at a good age for a move. I think that they would adjust very quickly and it might be good for you & your wife to have a fresh start. We moved when our kids were 2, 4, 6, and 8, and they loved the adventure of going to a new place. Any chance of you relocating as far as work? Might be a really good time.

I SO FEEL YOUR PAIN. My H had an affair with the village whore across the street. I get to see her everyday. Her family lies to protect her. She took my life away from me and I have to see her all the time. I am so depressed because of this. He says we should move but, that won't make me feel any better because he did not screw her in her house, they were always in a motel or drug dealers place. If you can move out of state or far enough away, I would. I would in a heart beat. Sometimes I feel like getting into my car and start driving and not stopping until I got to the other coast. I ahte this feeling.