What is Infidelity
Adultery is generally defined as consensual sexual intercourse by a married person with someone other than his or her lawful spouse. In many jurisdictions, an unmarried person who ...
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I went back and read some older posts. I know that my marriage has ended and I am not to blame. I also know that my H is broken and will never be the man I could be with until he gets some help which will never happen. I know that he lied to the OW and their relationship is based on LIES so therefore, it will NEVER work out. I want to be mad at her but I know it was my H's CHOICE to cheat,s he did not put a gun to his head and make him have sex with her. I am sure they have more in common then we did, we were 100% opposites.
I can accept it all, I really can and I am getting a divorce and moving on after over 10 years of a relationship. Sit back and really THINK about your relationshp...seriously, was it great? was it skip through a field of flowers wonderful? I know daily I was saying "I Fucking HATE him for doing this to me!" I took it for SO long and now I feel that this is not the first time he has cheated. If you know in your heart 100% that YOU TRIED and did the best you could then that is all you need to know. I know I tried like hell and he has found someone more on his (lower) intellectual level, someone who knows his workplace and the stress involved (ex co-worker) and she jumped right in and took over doing everything for him like I used to...laundry, bills, everything that he doesn;t have to do but work. I hope you all can get to the point I am and I am only 1 moth out of discovering the affair. 1 MONTH! I just know I am so worth much more and I was unhappy for SO long. Today I am so happy, looking for ward to my life ahead of me. Posted on 05/15/08, 04:05 pm |
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Here here!!
Please know that you have not been replaced you can never be replaced. True love is rare and he will be very lucky to find someone who will stand by his side and support him through tough times and take care of him over a long period of time like you have. One day he is going to totally regret what he has done but it will be far too late and you will be much happier with someone who appreciates you!! 
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I guess I am at a place most people can't understand yet and so early in the game. Trust me, my marriage has been bad for like 3 years. We got married and when my best friend drove me to our reception and my husband went with his friends should have been the first flag! He was more worried about getting to the hotel party than being with me. That has been my existence for so long...last on the list after weed, beer, friends work, buying shoes, taking a crap...I tell you, I was also in a fog and I woke UP! I do not deserve to be treated like this EVER so I am not and I am divorcing and I feel good.
Now to get asshole to sign papers and show up for it all...
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My relationship was bad for at least 11 of the 12 years we were together but I was so young and naieve I didnt really know that wasnt normal.
My H couldnt be bothered with me at our wedding either. He was so busy showing of he was pulling my head back by my veil as he was holding it due to the wind. He got real drunk then rolled over and fell asleep without making love to me (of course I have found out lately he was having an affair at the time) ARSEHOLE!! I think I am where you are pretty much but it has taken me over three months
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Congratulations. I don't think I have given my relationship 100% and I know my husband didn't either, but we are BOTH trying to make things work. Granted he has avoided going to counseling but he has done everything else I have asked him too. I check his phone records, know where he is at all times and he doesn't go out to bars or to camps with the guys anymore. He has been helping around the house more even though he works full time and I am home at the moment. He has actually been trying, if he hadn't it would be over. The OW is out of the picture and he wants nothing to do with her, he knew that before he confessed the affair.
Before the affair there were still parts of my marriage that were good too, and he is a good father as well. It has been almost a year for me and I have been through many emotions on this, it hasn't been easy. I am glad you are feeling stronger and that you have direction, I hope all works out well and he doesn't drag things out for you.
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