Infidelity Support Group

We have no children together, but I would not change a thing. I loved and still love this man with all of my heart and all that I am. ( Dont get me wrong, I dont agree with what he has done to me).... However the years that we did have together were the best I ever could have asked for..

The lost part if VERY painful, so I just try to find peace in thinking about all of the wonderful, loving and happy times that we did have.

Maybe in time all of those dreams can actually become a reality again.... Of course he first needs to get out of this depressed and self destructive phase that he is in and then of course ALOT of serious marriage counseling and rebuilding.

Soooooo My answer is I wouldnt trade all of the wonderful years, times and things we had in for anything!!

My ex was abusive, controlling, and the cheating was just one of our many problems.

The ONLY positive memory I have in our relationship was that of our son Micheal (he was born still). I wouldn't trade my baby for anything, even knowing that he wouldn't make it.

Had my son never came into existance, I would definitely say as far as me and my ex are concerned, it would have been better if I never loved at all. But I would do it all again in a heartbeat- the hitting, the pain, the crying nights, the seeing some other woman in MY bed and in MY clothes- just to be close to my son again.

Well I learned a very valuable lesson out of this nightmare, that you really never truly know someone, funny, we used to joke at one time when his or my cell would ring , 'Its' your girlfriend or it's your boyfriend calling 'I guess alot of truth is said in Jest right ? I no longer take things for granted, I did not think it was possible to hurt that bad, or feel that kind of pain, I survived it, there were days that I didnt want to or think I was going to, it is getting a little better each day ,but the wound is still pretty fresh ,so for right now I would rather not love and lose again, Id rather be alone ...

I would of rather not of loved at all. Because everytime Ive given its hasnt brought me anything but disappointment.This particular experience hasnt taught me anything but bitterness and distrust! Im dont consider myself a cold hearted person but its amazing how experiences can change you.. I will never let anyone do this to me again. Its not the first time so I conclude love is a risk, and as far as Im concerned not worth the heartache it brings! Unlike the others I dont have children so I cant relate but I understand!

Glad I loved, sorry I had to lose, I gave All my love and that wasn't enough. Now I question if I even know what love is and how to give it.
Hurts to be in this place.

I compare it to being blind. Would you rather have been born blind or have had sight and have lost it.

I would rather have been born blind so I didn't know what I was missing.

I love so intensely that his behavior hurt me to the core. I trusted for the first time in my life and got burned.

I love my Son and would do anything I could for him. I just wish I had picked a better father....I cry each night because this is not what I had planned. I saw myself happy, instead I am walkingon eggshells and doing my best to do my best.

It is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all. I regret some things in my life, but not love.

Better to have loved and lost then to never loved at all
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Don't cry for what you lost, smile for what you had.

They sound nice and positive but it just doesn't help the hurt.

Oh my gosh...For what my husband has put me through. I would rather have not loved him AT ALL !!!

You actually can't have the highs without the lows, like good or evil.
If you are happy with a "flat line" life (in my book this = bland) then never loving is fine.