Infidelity Support Group

I've seen her. I've had her to my house for parties. She has a great body but not that cute. All she does is workout, work and sleep with my STBX. Not much of a mother to her 3 children.

My husband had a one night stand with some bitch from a club, 2 weeks after me having our son. I felt like i was losing it, I went on the internet and found pictures of her. I even sent the pictures to some ppl to ask them if i was hotter then her. They all said yes, and to be honest i thought the bitch was not attractive either, she was bigger then me and was not very pretty. It made me feel better to know that i was better looking and i had a baby and she did not. But knowing he cheated still hurts just as bad, I felt ugly and fat. But yea knowing i was better looking then her, did make me feel better abit. But i only saw pictures, never saw her in person, it is best i dont see her, i would want to hit the bitch hard..

And i am also going to try to stay and work it out, but its hard hun. The images are always popping in my head. I may be more attractive but the images still hurt so bad. He says he srry and it was a HUGE mistake, the biggest mistake he ever made. I love him, and i hope we work out, but i have a hard time forgiving him. So my heart goes out to those who partner had an affair, my husband had one night stand and it hurts soo bad, i couldnt imagine if he was seeing her for a period of time

i can see both points of view..not wanting to see the OW, cuz then you'll have her face stuck in your memory, which if you are working it out w/ your partner could make it pretty hard..but i also know how it feels to want to know how she compares to you in your own eyes...when i saw my H's OW, i couldn't believe it or the fact that he chose her over me(in a sense) then it made me feel better too, cuz i know i have so much more going for me than she does...don't go looking for something you really d/not want to know or see!!!!

for kris19...i know it won't help much..but if your H only had a one night stand, consider that lucky..do you know how many married men in this country cheat? well it is over 75%, men cheat period..i d/not care what anyone says...at least it was not something ongoing w/ emmotions involved...to a man sex is sex & nothing more..i am not sticking up for him cuz i was cheated on too by my H...but he's human & all humans mess up..good luck to you..you'll make it...

I am not sure if it is good or bad to see the OW/OM. My H had an affair with a Drug addict, single mother who lives across the street from our home. Allof our windows face the side of her house. I get to see her everyday! Here is who she looks like: http://www.imdb.com/media/rm288028...

I laughed out loud while watching Desperate Housewives with my husband. Because that looks just like her. I almost wish they ran off together.

It may or may not help to know what the other person looks like.

I agree deejae, one nights stands are not as painful, cause it only happen once, plus there is nothing emotional involved. But it still hurts deep, but i try to think he was hammered and horny and i was not there(i was home watching our 2 week old baby) It does not make me feel better, but my heart really goes out to those partners that had an affair, like i said i dont know what i would do, cause just cheating(one night stand) cut me soo deep. I still dont know if staying with him was the right decision. Plus it was rigfht after i had our baby, so myself confidence was really low.

I thought I wanted to know what she looked like. But now I don't know.

My H said she is not even his "type". Whatever that is???

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I thought I wanted to know what she looked like. But now I don't know.

My H said she is not even his "type". Whatever that is???


Men don't have a type....a warm body suits most of them.

PLEASE DON'T, my OW came to my house to apologise and now i keep getting these mind movies played over and over. I say stick to not knowing about it.