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I've poured myself into books - although none will answer my burning desire to know the big "why" question, these have helped. My H has also read them to help him understand just how badly this has hurt me.

Unfaithful - Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity
by Gary & Mona Shriver

Torn Asunder
by Dave Carder

The Dance of Restoration : Rebuilding Marriage after Infidelity
by Abel Ortega and Melodie Fleming

The DNA of Relationships For Couples
by Greg Smalley

We also attended a 4 day couples intensive small group counseling put on by the National Institute of Marriage in Branson, Missouri. They have a web site with some great information. Although it was expensive to attend, I firmly believe the counseling that we got from those 4 days would have taken over a year to achieve in weekly couples counseling. I truly believe it was the foundation to rebuilding our marriage and would highly recommend it to anyone that is struggling in their relationship - with or with out an affair. I looked at it as our last ditch effort to try and save a shattered marriage. It is a very strong Christian based counseling, and I do believe that it is only by the grace and strength of God that I have made it through such a horrific event in my life!

Good Luck - My thoughts and prayers are with you - I know how you feel and there are no words to describe the pain and there are few words that can provide you comfort right now.

I have read After the Affair also and am reading Why We Love - while it doesn't deal specifically with infidelity it has given my H and I insight into infatuation which is clearly what he was suffering from

I read "My Husband's Affair Became The Best Thing That Happened To Me" by Anne Bercht. A good read.

I have read about every book I can read. Dr Dobson's Love Must Be Tough, was helpful. I also like the book Not Just Friends and I can not remember who wrote it but I think it was Dr. Shirley Glass.

Surviving Infidelity- Rona Subotnik

Not Just Friends- Shirley Glass

First Aid for the Betrayed- Richard Alen

I've read over two dozen, and those were the most helpful for me.

I read all the books, I did read, After the Affair and I found it made me resent my husband, it focused a lot on both people being at fault for the affair, and my husband and counselor both repeatedly tell me it wasn't my fault at all. I was all my husband. Getting his ego boost. I found the best book by far that I have read is:
REPAIRING YOUR MARRIAGE AFTER HIS AFFAIR....It showed me that the more affairs one has the less emotions he had for the ones he slept with. I needed to read this because heaven knows I was not believing anything my husband said to me, another good one is: HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME?(LEARNING TO TRUST AFTER BETRAYAL) Also check the recommendation thread.